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The Judgment Seat: What Will the Review of Your Life Show?

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The game is on the line; the next play can make or break the outcome. The quarterback drops back in the pocket and throws deep into the end zone. Many players jump for the ball, but the receiver comes down with it right by the line. Did he have his foot down in bounds? The line judge signals touchdown, but before the extra point is kicked, the referee waves his arms and says, “The previous play is under further review.”

Off he goes to find out what the decision will be.

God’s Word gives us the plan, provision, pattern, and purpose for growth in Christ, but many times we choose our own selfish desires over living for Christ. In 2 Peter 1, we read that we have an easy entrance into God’s Kingdom if we follow His plan for our life. If something is “richly provided” to us, that means it is handed over without question and graciously bestowed upon us. Why would we not want that?

The Outcome at the Judgment Seat

judgment seatWhen the referee comes back onto the field, he states, “After further review, the play on the field stands. Touchdown!” The winning team rejoices in the glorious outcome.

When you die, you will stand before the judgment seat of Christ. Will Jesus richly provide for you an entrance into Heaven, or will He state, “The following life is under further review.” Wow, what a moment that would be. Is your life being lived in such a way that would make Him take another look to see if you should make it into Heaven? God offers us eternal life through the acceptance of His one and only Son, Jesus Christ.

When we accept Him into our hearts, our lives should look radically different. Every day our lives should reflect the life of Christ. If you have accepted Christ, does your life reflect His? That is your choice.

God’s desire is for you to richly receive the entrance into Heaven. You want the Lord to say, “After further review, this life stands. It’s a touchdown! Come spend eternity with Me.” Let us live our lives in such a way that the replay booth will yield an eternal “well done, my good and faithful servant.”

So, What’s The Play Call?

  1. Have you ever had a play overturned by God’s Word?
  2. Are you living your life in a way that no instant replay will be needed?
  3. Today, how can you avoid the replay booth and go right into Heaven when your time on earth is over?

 

3 Reasons to Stop Hating On the Proverbs 31 Woman

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“I Don’t Need a Man to be Worthy.”

Modern-day women have had it with the Proverbs 31 woman.

Perhaps this chapter of the Bible has been taught in certain circles with an iron-clad punch in the face, causing women to feel “less than” if they’re not married with children. Or, perhaps the proverbial bar in Proverbs 31 seems set unrealistically high.

Some women wear themselves out trying to reach “her” level of perfection as they juggle less than perfect marriages, kids, jobs, finances, health – you name it.

Still, there are some women who are more than content to rock the Proverbs 31 t-shirt, bracelet, journal, and hashtag – when their lives couldn’t be farther from a Proverbs 31 woman. And, the women who know her are tired of her frontin’ on social media.

Sound about right?

All of this adds up to a subtle, growing resistance against hearing one more word about a Proverbs 31 woman.

And, you know what? These women have a point!

Deconstructing the “Virtuous” Proverbs 31 Woman

Let’s re-center ourselves, ladies, and take an honest look at the Proverbs 31 woman and ourselves.

First, before we were formed in our mother’s womb – God knew us – not you and your future husband and kids…YOU (Jeremiah 1:5).

When Jesus died for your sins – you’re right – you did not have to show a marriage license to prove that you were worth dying for. Our sins are not washed away based on how many children we bear.

Yes, sister.  Your worth is not derived from being a wife, nor a natural mother, but from the truth that you were fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14).

Now. What you DO with your fearfully and wonderfully made self is totally in your hands.

Living that Virtuous Proverbs 31 Life

fear of being aloneSometimes, it’s good to get technical. So, what exactly does Proverbs 31 mean by “virtuous“?

Did you know that the Hebrew word for “virtuous” in Proverbs 31 – chayil – means strength? Did you also know that this same word was used to describe the types of men that were to be chosen as judges over Israel when they left Egypt (Exodus 18:21, see “able” men)?

Oooohwee, can’t you just hear the finger snaps and high-fives of modern-day “BOSS” women? Who’s ready to cosign on strength?

See, somewhere along the line, sis, “we” projected the virtuous, Proverbs 31 woman as only being a chaste, meek and lowly Sally-homemaker, didn’t we? Perhaps even in our singleness, we hated on her and instead of putting ourselves in a position to learn from her strength, we falsely adorned her in weakness that soon garnered our disdain.

If but for a moment, let’s put down the haterade against the Proverbs-31-woman-label, and take a closer look at what her life’s example is really trying to tell us.

Respect: Woman to Proverbs 31 Woman

proverbs 31 womanTo respect someone, you have to get to know the “real” person, their come-from. A quick surface snapshot won’t cut it. Here are 3 character traits I draw from the description of the Proverbs 31 woman – some things we can all respect and learn something from:

1. She is an overcomer with a testimony.

Eleanor Roosevelt has a popular quote that says, “A woman is like a tea bag – you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.

Ask any strong woman you know – you have to go through something to find your strength. Being strong comes with a price!

Here we find 3 times in 22 verses – in the word virtuous, verse 17, and verse 25 – that the Proverbs 31 woman is described as having or being clothed in strength.

Have we ever honestly considered that Proverbs chapter 31 describes a woman after her seasons of “many are the afflictions of the righteous“, “my power is made perfect in weakness“, or perhaps “they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength“?  Is it too far-fetched to think that a woman of this distinct strength had moments of struggle, “took up her cross and followed Jesus” – paid the price for her oil?

We don’t know her beginnings, her childhood, or family status – but we can safely assume that her strength was earned under the watchful eye and loving hand of the Almighty God.

2. She is trainable.

Say what you want about the Proverbs 31 woman – sister had skills!

She was a businesswoman who burned the midnight oil AND rose early in the morning (v. 15, 18). She was skilled in tapestry design, and she knew how to negotiate business and real estate deals (v. 16) – all while juggling her life as a wife and mother and being a good steward over her money.

The Proverbs 31 woman wasn’t “born with it” (and it sure wasn’t Maybelline lol). Somewhere along the way, she not only received training, but she applied what she had learned.

How many of us were right there in class, we received the training – but didn’t apply ourselves or invest in the practice of what we learned? You’ve invested in a life coach and master classes – have you done the work, or merely heard what it takes to improve your life? How easy is it to quit when we don’t understand, or we don’t get it right the first time?

The Proverbs 31 woman took her teachable moments and bore fruit – long before tasting the fruit of marriage or motherhood. What seeds are in our hands today, ladies? What skills have you cultivated?

3. She Knows When to Speak and When to Be Quiet.

One thing we know for sure, our mouths can cause cataclysmic damage in a short amount of time. That little member called the tongue will wreck relationships, expose a filthy heart, and render any perception of our strength as impotent with just a few words.

Before she ever opened her business and sold one tapestry, the Proverbs 31 woman was rich with wisdom She knew when to speak and what to say, when not to speak and what didn’t need to be said.

Isn’t this one of the hardest lessons to learn, especially for us ladies?

It requires us women to eat the fruit of humility – not exactly the tasty delicacy we crave on the regular.

When’s the last time our prideful hearts, knowing we were right, resisted the urge to let the world know it? How hard is it for us to keep our whole mind intact and not give someone “a piece” of it? Does today’s “strong woman” find strength in the strategy of silence, or “say it loud, put folks on blast”?

There’s no way the Proverbs 31 woman could win the respect of her family and community with loose lips. How are we doing with our unruly member (James 3:8)?

So, What’s the Play Call?

Bottom line – the “Proverbs 31 woman” is a mere glimpse of what’s possible for women of God when we learn to faithfully fear (honor) and serve the Lord.

Don’t compare your journey where you are right now with the Proverbs 31 woman’s ending. She didn’t get there overnight – and neither will we, wherever our “there” may be. Allowing others to misrepresent the true character and witness of the Proverbs 31 woman will cause us to miss the point of a beautiful, rich life with Christ.

There’s a virtuous garment of strength with your name on it – it only fits you. So, put on your strength, Daughters of Zion (Isaiah 52:1)! And, in those moments when you feel like giving up, find comfort, wisdom, and strength in God.  He’s already promised:

Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.  Isaiah 41:10

The woman in Proverbs 31 is a witness!

RESPECT Review: Aretha Franklin’s Journey to Her Voice and Her Source, God

The Crowning of Aretha Franklin in Humanity

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As I sat in the movie theater for an early media screening of RESPECT, amongst a sea of empty seats and only four other journalists, I was intrigued by what I did not see in this film.

Yes, we witnessed the complete embodiment of Ms. Aretha Franklin by Academy Award winner Jennifer Hudson – and likely why Hudson will win a second Oscar for her performance. Yes, we experienced Ms. Franklin’s music through Hudson’s powerhouse vocals, the church as a place of reprieve from civil rights struggles, even the authentically classy fashions of women and men in the 50’s and 60’s (not to mention Hudson’s 50+ wig changes).

But, what viewers won’t see in RESPECT is this: A journey to legendary music status and iconic success, paved with ease and free from the struggles “regular” people have.

Isn’t that how we typically view the life of artists and performers we adore? We buy tickets, cheer for them to “sing for us, make us happy, make us feel good!”, all without knowing what it takes for them to stand behind the mic and give thousands – even millions – what they, at times, cannot give themselves.

After seeing RESPECT, the world will never listen to Aretha Franklin’s voice again – not without knowing the cost she paid, the sacrifices made, and the faith it took to find her voice.

Let’s take a brief look.

Jennifer Hudson and RESPECT dazzled the crowd Sunday night at a premiere fit for a Queen.

The Childhood of Aretha Franklin

RESPECT starts where it all began, with young Aretha Franklin singing in church. We quickly see that growing up as a “PK” (Preacher’s Kid) to the pre-imminent preacher of that era and “the most imitated African-American preacher in history”, Rev. C. L. Franklin, had both its positive perks and its negative exposure.

Aretha’s home was frequented by many prominent black artists and dignitaries of her day, with regulars like Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr, Sam Cooke, Dinah Washington, and Mahalia Jackson. While we can infer occasions of soulful Sunday Dinners and frequent sing-a-longs, the childhood home of Aretha Franklin was also ground zero for “other” festive occasions.

The Imperfection of “Church” Exposed

What better place to kick back, relax, and have a stiff drink (or something harder – no pun intended) than at the Pastor’s house? Huh?

RESPECT pulls zero punches on the exposure of the “party times” at Rev. Franklin’s home. Aretha Franklin grew up not only hearing the gospel preached but also hearing and watching “the saints” act in ways that weren’t conducive to biblical teaching.

Some Christian viewers will be unfazed while others will be appalled at how the film exposes the hypocrisy of those who “have decided to follow Jesus” and the impact this behavior inevitably had on Aretha Franklin.

The truth of the matter is that, although we may sing “no turning back”, some of us in the church do, some of us have.

Instead of taking issue with RESPECT for this exposure, followers of Christ can echo the truth that the “church” is the only place of healing where the “doctor” (pastor/leaders) needs the same medicine as the patients and is responsible for his/her own health (salvation).

Childhood Trauma is the Kryptonite of Our Gifts.

If there’s anything that will throw a child out of innocence and walking in the beauty of their God-given gifts, it’s child abuse – be it sexual, emotional, mental, or physical – and the loss of a mother. In RESPECT, Director Liesl Tommy and writer Tracey Scott Wilson delicately portray the abuse of young “Re” and the impact it had on the Queen of Soul’s life long-term.

Aretha Franklin Denies the Right to Give Up.

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As RESPECT shifts into Ms. Franklin’s adulthood, we see the impact of troubled relationships in her marriage to Ted White (Marlon Wayans), the burden of mediocre success after multiple albums, and Ms. Franklin’s unhealthy coping mechanisms when her “demons” called.

Dinah Washington (Mary J. Blige) says it best in the trailer, “Four albums, no hits.” Between years of performances and studio sessions, the film builds the fatigue and exacerbation of self-doubt, having it all – and yet nothing’s working.

At the moment when Ms. Franklin could lose it all, she draws on her faith in God – the hallmark of RESPECT. It starts in the church and ends in the church.

You Can Always Come Back to God.

Can you? From alcoholism, unhealed trauma, when folks have either written you off or know that you’ve fallen off? Is there even a God to go back to?

Yes! RESPECT gives the world a glimpse into the beauty of redemptive grace through Jesus Christ. No matter how far into the darkness Ms. Franklin drifted with her “demons”, no matter how hypocritical or “fake” Christians behaved around her while growing up, the love of God took root in her heart, and when all else failed, she believed God was still strong and mighty to save.

Sure, there are some who may disagree with the notion that you can always come back to God. Why? Partly because they’re focused on the word “always” and not the word “God.”

When you focus on “always”, verses like, “shall we continue in sin that grace may abound” (Romans 6:1) or “My Spirit shall not always strive with man…” (Genesis 6:3) come to mind.

However, when we focus on the word “God” (the Source), and the truth that He is love (1 John 4:8), we will understand this mystery as Aretha Franklin did:

God is more concerned about loving you, saving you, being with you than he is punishing you.

Now, let Team Jesus say, “Amen!”

Catch a Glimpse of Aretha Franklin’s Story on August 13th

respect movieYes, some viewers may leave the theater asking, “And then what?” or “What about the 80’s and 90’s?” Director Liesl Tommy was very intentional not to make RESPECT a birth-to-death biopic, but to highlight the formative years of Ms. Aretha Franklin. Understandably, a single, two-hour, and 25-minute film won’t tell the whole story of Ms. Franklin’s life.

Nevertheless, RESPECT fully crowns Ms. Aretha Franklin in humanity and tells her story with compassion and a tension that keeps us rooting for her to find her voice. Audiences will leave the theater deeply moved by the struggles she overcame and how her gift from God led her back to redemption and her roots.

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Cast: Jennifer Hudson, Forest Whitaker, Marlon Wayans, Audra McDonald, Marc Maron, Tituss Burgess, Saycon Sengbloh, Hailey Kilgore, Tate Donovan, Heather Headley, Skye Dakota Turner, and Mary J. Blige.

DIRECTOR: Liesl Tommy

SCREENPLAY BY: Tracey Scott Wilson

STORY BY: Callie Khouri and Tracey Scott Wilson

PRODUCERS: Harvey Mason Jr., Scott Bernstein, p.g.a., Jonathan Glickman, Stacey Sher

EXECUTIVE PRODUCERS: Jennifer Hudson, Liesl Tommy, Sue Baden-Powell, Aaron L. Gilbert, Jason Cloth

Instagram: @RespectMovie

Twitter: @RespectMovie

Facebook: @RespectFilm

Give Grace: Silencing Our Inner Judge and Jury

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Judge Not

Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth.  So when you, a mere human being pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment?” (NIV)

Let’s talk about how easy it is to pass judgment on someone else. We do it all the time, right? If we see a mom in the store with loud and excited kids, we may think that she is doing a poor job of teaching her kids how to behave. Or, if we see a homeless man, we assume he has substance abuse issues. 

I have been guilty of being extremely judgmental in the past, and it seems as if God always puts people in my path to challenge and change my perspective.  Maybe the mom with loud kids is just overwhelmed and has chosen to choose her battles for the day.  I know homeless men and women who became homeless because of a job loss or even domestic violence with no addiction problems whatsoever.

Offense We See In Others Often Mirrors Our Own Flaws 

graceThere was a time when I was on my soapbox about Millennials.  I thought that all Millennials were lazy and had a false sense of entitlement.  I felt that they did not want to work and had no respect for other people. 

I would genuinely become upset just thinking about this subgroup of our population.  One day in church my pastor told all of the Millennials to come to the altar for prayer.  I thought to myself “Good, they need it.”  

As people were going up to the altar, my pastor stated that the Millennial age group was people born 1981-1996.  I was shocked to find out that I was a Millennial!  

Talk about a sobering experience. My soapbox was destroyed.  But, it was destroyed for a good cause. It was at this moment that I felt convicted about being judgmental, and I knew that I could not continue down that path.

God is the Only Righteous and Gracious Judge

write the visionThis experience taught me that just like forgiveness is necessary for you to release bitterness and anger, giving grace is necessary so that you don’t form a pessimistic perspective towards all people. 

Not giving grace can lead to viewing everyone with mistrust. I struggled with giving grace for a long time. I was a very judgmental person and did not realize the negative effects it was having on me mentally and emotionally. 

I started to think the worse about most people.  I was not able to show empathy towards others, nor did I feel that it was necessary; I felt that people got what they deserved no matter how good or bad their circumstances were.

Being judgmental became one of the traits I was known for without me realizing it.  People would seek me out to tell me about a situation or a person because they knew I would offer my opinion on things that did not concern me.  And, I started to feel a sense of uncomfortable pride in it. I knew that God was not pleased with my actions, but I was feeding off of the amusement and agreement of other people. 

But, when I became convicted that day in church, I started to research and study my Bible more closely in the area of judging others.  And, what I realized is that although God does call us to use wisdom and discernment, God does not call us to be judges of others’ hearts because He has that responsibility (1 Samuel 16:7).  God calls us to show grace and mercy to others just as He shows grace and mercy to us.

So, What’s the Play Call?

First, we must humble ourselves before God and stop being more proud than we should be.  1 Peter 5:9 commands us to “clothe [y]ourselves with humility toward one another, because ‘God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble’” (NIV).  We must start giving grace to others and stop harshly judging.  No one is perfect.  So, no matter how great you think you are, God made us all in His image.

If someone’s actions are so horrifically unbelievable that we cannot fathom doing such a thing, do as Luke 6:36 says, “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful” (NIV).  Regardless of the circumstances, we are to see people as our brothers or sisters in Christ who, like us, have made mistakes, but are trying their best to do the right thing.  Begin looking for the good in people instead of pointing out their shortcomings.  This applies even to people we see on social media or the stories we see on the news. 

Start thinking and speaking of others in the way we are called to in Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear” (NIV).  In short, practice what your mom told you as a kid, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”.

Does Your Summertime Netflix and Chill Leave God Out?

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Summer is Here!

You know what that means – warmer weather, shorts and t-shirts, backyard BBQs, pool parties, and vacations!

Summer is also a time for enjoying family and friends. Who doesn’t love sun-filled days and warm, lazy evenings? It is a great thing to be able to take a break and refresh yourself. The stress of our daily grind can take a toll on us both physically and mentally.  Even our children have the opportunity to take the summer off from school.  While there is nothing wrong with taking a break, we can never take the summer off (or even a day off) from our relationship with God.

As Kingdom citizens, we must stay vigilant and on guard. 1 Peter 5:8 (ESV) reminds us: “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

As we enjoy the summer months, it is imperative that we do not disconnect from God.

Here are 3 simple ways I have learned to stay connected:

1. Wake up early.

Find What You're Looking forMake a decision to get up early and put God first in your day (Psalm 63:1)!  There have been many times in my life I have said that I am putting God first, only to find that the first thing I did in the morning was look at my phone, check my email, or browse social media. I had to get real with myself and do a self-evaluation.

I recognized that my walk needed to line up with my talk. I had to change my daily routine, put God first, and make Him a priority over everything – over my spouse, over my children, and over my prideful need to ‘stay in the know’ online.  I found that waking up early allowed me to establish a quiet time with God. Before the activity of the day, I was able to find peace in God’s presence and direction for my day.

2. Pray.

prayer requestsWe all know that the basis of any good relationship is communication.  Prayer is the way that we talk to God.  It is in these times that He can also speak back to us if we can still our hearts and minds long enough to listen.  Psalms 46:10 reminds us to be still and know that He is God, and Jeremiah 33:3 says that if we call unto Him, He will answer us.

Sometimes I thought that God was far away and that he was inaccessible.  It was this wrong thinking that hindered me from trying to pray or connect with God.  His desire is to be close to us.  He wants to speak to our hearts and minds in the midst of the busy chaos of this world, but we must take the time and allow him the space to do so.

3. Listen to Scripture on the Go.

love letterTechnology makes the Word of God available to us in so many ways.  We can download an app to our phones and have the scriptures read to us.  Getting the Word of God in our hearts is another way that we can stay connected to Him.

I can remember a time when I would listen to the scriptures, even when I was not actively tuned in, something would be read that deeply resonated with my spirit.  I found myself scrolling back in the recording to listen again. Many times it was something that spoke directly to a situation that I was facing. Romans 10:17 says that faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. What better way to ‘hear’ God’s word?

As we enjoy the summer months, may I encourage you to intentionally find ways to stay connected to God?

So, what’s the play call?

Do not allow the summer (or your desire to really Netflix and chill) to steal your connection with HIM!

‘They Cannot Burn Jesus Out of Me’: Mozambique Pastors Serve Survivors of Violent Insurgency

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Back in April, when armed men began attacking his village in the middle of the night, a pastor of a local church in northern Mozambique woke his family to flee. He took his two older sons and his wife took their two younger sons. In the midst of chaos and confusion, shouting and shooting, they escaped in two different directions.

The pastor and his sons hid in the surrounding bush all night before returning to the village, near the town of Palma, to look for the rest of their family. The next morning, he found their hut caved in and the remains of his four-year-old son, who had been beheaded by the attackers. All he and his sons could do was dig a hole in the ground to bury the young boy’s body and weep together. To this day, his wife and second-youngest son are still missing.

This pastor shared his story with CT through English-speaking ministry partners in Mozambique. He asked that he and his village remain unnamed for security reasons, but his story is not unique as conflict escalates in the northern province of Cabo Delgado.

Countless innocent civilians are fleeing the area where insurgents have been burning entire villages to the ground and brutalizing their inhabitants—including beheading, recruiting, capturing, enslaving, and committing sexual crimes against them. The violence has killed thousands of people and displaced upward of 800,000, a number that is growing rapidly and may soon reach one million, United Nations officials warn.

“The north of Mozambique, especially Cabo Delgado province … is being affected by Islamic insurgents, who at some stage claim to be linked with Islamic State,” said Mauricio Magunhe, faith and development coordinator for World Vision Mozambique.

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Our Mission: Seek First the Kingdom of God

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Jesus uses very direct and clear language about pursuing our mission; He says to seek first the Kingdom of God and to live righteously as if it’s life’s highest priority. He also promises that our needs will be met when we do this.

Pursuing the Kingdom of God means seeking God’s authority being carried out in all areas of life. He has the authority to lead us in every facet of our lives – at home, at school, with friends, in the workplace, and in the community.

seek first the kingdomTo pursue living righteously means seeking to please God with our lives. How we conduct ourselves can be pleasing to God, but only if we are in a relationship with Him through Christ. Our behavior towards our family, friends, co-workers, and strangers is pleasing to God when we honor Him and when we are loving towards others.

The wonderful promise of this verse is that our pursuit of living in God’s authority and living in a way that pleases Him has a reward that fulfills our needs. Jesus admonishes us to do so in the proper order – mission accomplished, then all things added. We can find great comfort and security in Jesus’ promise. Think about it.

So, What’s The Play Call?

  1. What do people around you pursue as their life’s highest priority?
  2. How would pursuing God’s authority as the highest priority change your daily lifestyle?
  3. Are there people, things, goals that challenge God’s place as the highest priority in your life?

 

Overtime

“But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” – Acts 1:8 NLT

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, for he has anointed me to bring Good News to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim that captives will be released, that the blind will see, that the oppressed will be set free…” – Luke 4:18

“For the Lord gave us this command when he said, ‘I have made you a light to the Gentiles, to bring salvation to the farthest corners of the earth.’ ” – Acts 13:47

Prayer

“Father, I will pursue Your authority in my life as the matter of highest priority. I will pursue righteous living as the matter of highest priority. I will trust You to fulfill my needs as I stay focused on these priorities. I pray, commit, and pursue in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.”

 

Don’t Pick the Scabs: 5 Ways We Block Our Own Healing

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Let Healing End.

scabsI got into a fight in 1st grade.  She pushed me down on the sidewalk; I got up and pushed her down on the sidewalk. We were both sent to the nurse (and detention) and ended up with almost identical scars that remained through high school. We later became friends and grew to laugh about our craziness.

But, before my scar came along, my skin grew this rough, bumpy scab.  As a kid, I was intrigued by scabs:  “How’d the body do that?  And look how easily you can pick it off, see the dotted, white skin underneath, and then it grows back again…like magic.

Needless to say, times have changed since 1st grade – including my outlook on wounds, scabs, and scars.

Life teaches us that some of the nastiest scrapes and deepest wounds never crack our skin, but they pierce our souls.  And, while we can’t put a physical band-aid on our bleeding hearts, God in His infinite, healing love knows how to form an invisible scab to protect the healing process.

But sometimes, it’s still so tempting to pick at the scab.  It’s not enough for us to move out of God’s way so healing can manifest – without meddling. We are strangely adept at finding ways to justify why the picking must begin.

Ways We Pick at Life’s Scabs

It’s not a healthy habit to admit, Team, but scab picking happens. Hurt from others, disappointments in life can wound you to the core. In the middle of your healing process, have you ever found yourself:

  • Constantly ruminating and re-living painful, past events that wounded you?
  •  “Acting out” against the wound with more destructive behavior and patterns?
  • Living in excessive frustration over the how’s and why’s of the wound, because it didn’t make sense to you?
  • Obsessively wishing things had turned out differently; what could I have done to avoid the wound?
  • Constantly soliciting opinions, viewpoints, inspections, and “two cents” about the wound from others?
  • Blaming others for wounds you inflicted on yourself?
  • Seeking revenge and/or punishment to wound those who caused your wound?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, it’s time to move out of your own way. You are blocking the very healing that the Lord your God would love to give you (Exodus 15:26).

Set Your Healing Free.

Here are a few reasons why spiritual scab picking is so destructive and must be stopped now:

1. It represents disorder.

God is a God of order and peace (1 Corinthians 14:33). When God personally designed our healing, He set a predetermined order, structure, and peace intended for our healing process.  When we pick at the scab, we introduce chaos and confusion that disses the order and design for our healing.  Thoughts and actions that nourish grudges and unforgiveness set us “apart from” and are a “negative, reversing force” to our healing process.

2. It introduces infection.

The wound is already painful enough, right? By picking the scab, we add insult to injury, we enlarge and magnify the offense, and create additional pus and pain that were outside the scope of the healing process. Now, we not only have to heal from the original wound – but from the effects of the infection that we added to the mix – which can be much worse than the wound itself. The key point to remember is this: Wounds wound, infections can KILL!

3. It can increase the risk of disfiguring scars.

When we submit to our healing process, we can actually minimize the developing scar. For instance, why have to heal from a bankruptcy scar, too, because you started overspending to cope with the pain from the wound? God’s intended shape and size of your scar does not take your scab-picking into account – but trust that nothing catches God off guard. The larger wound can heal too!

4. It delays healing, which delays freedom, which delays…

You have things you want to accomplish in life, right? Well, when we’re wounded and healing, we are not as effective as our whole, healed selves envisioned by God. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to be wounded around people. It increases the likelihood of being misunderstood or lashing out at others for the pain they did not cause. Respect your healing time. There is an abundance that awaits after healing; don’t sabotage the time it takes to get there by picking scabs.

5. It disrupts God’s purpose: To move us from wound to scar

Team, this may be hard to grasp (depending on the wound), but the purpose of your wound was to HEAL and HELP others. Notice the wound didn’t kill you.  Yes, it hurt like crazy, it left a mark, you had to compensate and somehow recover from it, but YOU’RE STILL HERE! The wound didn’t come to take you out, but the scar it leaves can bring others out of the same or similar situation. Your testimony will give others hope, determination, and inspire a healed scar of their own!

Note: Just as physical scab-picking can represent a deeper psychological disorder, so can the picking that goes on in our minds.  If you’re unable to stop on your own, consider adding the help of a Christian counselor or therapist to your personal work of prayer and surrender to God.

So, What’s the Play Call?

During one of my greatest healing journeys, God whispered to me: “A scar is a story written by the wound and published by the scab.”

The wound came to be healed. So, stay on healing purpose, Team. The goal is a healed scar! Let’s give our scabs the freedom and space to do their part – knowing that God is protecting us while He heals us. Your wounds have awesome, victorious stories to tell. Don’t block them, set them free!

How the Critical Race Theory Debate Distracts from God’s Justice

In the conflict over racial issues, “just preach the gospel” misses the gospel.

I remember the World War II stories I was told as a middle school student. Wearing secondhand clothes and sporting an unkempt fade, I sat in a hard wooden desk too small for my growing black body in a classroom full of distracted boys and girls. The air conditioning in Alabama classrooms was unreliable, which meant sweat was an ever-present companion to our education.

The teachers told us impressionable youths that the traumas of both world wars revealed American and British grit. These great nations set aside petty concerns and turned to the needs of others. I was told at that unforgiving desk that nations and individuals discover themselves under pressure. When the fervency of belief encounters the unforgiving realities of suffering, our deepest convictions are unveiled. When cancer invades a human body and stresses a marriage, the true depth of love and commitment becomes clear.

In more recent history, COVID-19 has been a similar pressure and a similar revelation for the United States and its churches. Just as there are tests that reveal a person’s character, there are national trials that make plain what a country is.

What has the COVID-19 pandemic said about the American church? Who have we revealed ourselves to be under pressure? I am talking not about the virus itself. I am talking about the social crisis of the pandemic, which brought to light the ongoing experience of racism and injustice by ethnic minorities in this country.

The church had an opportunity to lead in this area and show the world how our faith allows us to press for better treatment for all. Instead, some decided to litigate the validity of critical race theory. With Black and Asian blood drying on the concrete streets of American cities, some decided …

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Social Media and Christians: How to Give Good Faith Answers

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In a June essay, celebrated Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie mourned the decline of good-faith conversation, especially online. The post, titled “It Is Obscene,” promptly went viral.

“There are many social-media-savvy people who are choking on sanctimony and lacking in compassion, who can fluidly pontificate on Twitter about kindness but are unable to actually show kindness,” she wrote. “People who ask you to ‘educate’ yourself while not having actually read any books themselves,” Adichie continued. “People who depend on obfuscation, who have no compassion for anybody genuinely curious or confused. Ask them a question and you are told that the answer is to repeat a mantra. Ask again for clarity and be accused of violence.”

She should know. Adichie’s essay was the culmination of a feud that played out online and off, mixing personal slights and ideological debate. The substance isn’t relevant here, but the way the authors interacted is. And the result of that sort of pernicious atmosphere, as Adichie said, is that eventually, people become afraid to ask at all. They become afraid to say the wrong thing, perhaps unwittingly, in the deathless public record of social media: “The assumption of good faith is dead.”

I might qualify that a little—there are contexts, online and off, where I still assume good faith. But the assertion generally rings true.

Though it’s literally my job to air controversial opinions, I approach social media guardedly. I scrutinize my phrasing, not merely in pursuit of clarity for its own sake but also for possible lines of unfair attack. This ought not to be.

Christian engagement in public conversation should be distinguished by our thoroughgoing commitment to always speak in good faith, including when it may not be returned (Rom. 12:17–21).

“Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have,” the apostle Peter advised, adding a classic scriptural admonition to good faith: “But do this with gentleness and respect” (1 Pet. 3:15).

Good faith is not the same as positivity. It’s not niceness. It’s not precisely the same as honesty, though certainly they’re related. To deal in good faith is to speak truthfully and read generously, giving grace for real confusion, because “gracious words promote instruction” (Prov. 16:21).

We show good faith when we don’t “repay evil with evil or insult with insult” (1 Pet. 3:9). Good faith makes space for people to

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