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The Writing Season: How to Write the Vision and Make it Plain

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As our series continues on recognizing your season in your walk with God, I’d like to encourage you to resist comparing your life walk with the journey of those around you. Dying as a caterpillar is not an option!  As you navigate through life with Christ, you may find yourself in 1 of 3 seasons:  The Waiting season, The Writing season, or The Working season.

This article will focus on the Writing Season: Why Write, What to Write, and How to Write.

Put the Vision on Paper? Why?  

Writing is an Act of Obedience. 

The Word of the Lord in Habakkuk 2:2 instructs us to write the vision. Writing the vision is obedience to what God has asked us to do.  The simple act of doing what the Word of God says shifts us from being a passive, laid-back hearer to an active, engaged doer.  Acting on God’s instruction puts us in a position to receive His best.

Brings Clarity

Writing also brings a sense of clarity to our thoughts.  Clarity is important because it provides focus.

Instead of wandering aimlessly, writing allows us to zero in on our heart’s desire. Putting pen to paper brings our desire center stage.

Once focus is achieved, it is much easier to make plans in order to bring the desire to pass. Moving the idea from your mind to paper creates a physical representation of what is to come.

God is pleased when we write in faith.  Although we may not know all of the how-to’s of our process, He helps us fill in the gaps as we trust him and are obedient in small steps.

Hebrews 11:1 says Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Your writing, by faith, is the material that your future victory is made of!

Helps us to not Forget

Writing also helps you to remember what’s important.  When things are difficult, revisiting the vision will help you stay the course.  Writing down the vision spoken to you by God will be a visual reminder of your future win.

Matthew 4:1-11 recounts Jesus being tempted by satan:

After 40 days of fasting, the Spirit led Jesus into the wilderness to be tempted by the enemy.  Naturally, after 40 days without food, Jesus was hungry.  The enemy tempted him three times.  First with bread, then with the pride of proving who He was, and finally with the wealth of the world.  Each time Jesus battled the deception of the enemy with ‘It is written’.   

You can put the practice of putting pen to paper to create your own ‘It is written‘ to fight the enemy’s whispers of defeat.  Writing God’s vision for your life gives you something solid to look back on.  You can use your own version of ‘It is written‘ to help you in times of doubt and discouragement. Looking back at your own ‘It is written‘ will help you endure the difficult times.

What am I Writing?  

writeAll of this business of write the vision sounds great, but what if you have no idea what to write?  What if you don’t know what the vision is?

Write God’s Vision for Your Life  

Getting into God’s Word is key to knowing His mind. God expresses His thoughts through His Word.  The Bible is God’s mind in written form.  By spending time in God’s Word, we can find the direction and the vision that He wants for our lives.

We develop our natural relationships by spending time with a person, talking to them, and learning their likes and dislikes. It is in this same way that we nurture our relationship with God – by spending time with Him, talking to Him and by meditating on His word.

So, how do you find out God’s vision for your life?

It’s simple: Ask Him.

“God, what is your vision for my life?
What do you want me to do?
How do you want to use me?”

Ask God what He wants to do through you. His vision for our lives is far beyond what we know.  Jeremiah 29:11 says that God knows the plans He has for us. Jeremiah 33:3 says that we can call Him and that He will reveal things that we do not know.  Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us to trust Him, and to acknowledge Him in everything we do.  His Word says that He will direct our steps. When we pray and totally surrender ourselves to His will, He can do amazing things in our lives.

After you ask God what He wants for your life, you will have to do this one thing to hear the answer.

How to Be Still

In order to get the answers you need from God, it will be important that you silence all the noise around you.  That means you will have to turn off the TV. You will have to power down your cell phone. You’ll have to put away the iPad. This silence will require you to turn off the newsfeed in your mind – that means no Twitter feeds, no Facebook timeline, no Instagram scrolling, and certainly no Periscope live streams.

If you really want to hear from God, you will have to be intentional about shutting out all outside distractions.  Too many times we are listening to everything and everybody else – but God. In the middle of all this noise, God may have already been speaking.  Often we miss it because we don’t allow ourselves any time for quiet. We never take the time to silence the incoming noise in our minds.

Replacing my Plan with His Vision  

If I can be transparent, I too have been in this place.  I knew I needed to be still.  I needed God’s direction for my life, but I felt like I had to keep up the pace of what I already knew. I was familiar with my confusion and comfortable in my chaos.   I didn’t want to slow down for direction because I thought I had it. I didn’t want to admit that my life was going too fast and…

I was falling apart.

A serious surgery finally forced me to be still.  I was physically unable to do anything other than be still.  It was during this time that I recognized that I was nothing without Him. All of the things that I was doing meant nothing without God’s guidance.   Although I thought I was on the right path, I was on my path, following my own direction. Frustrated with my life, I was running on fumes, burnt-out, and unfulfilled without Him.

As tears of pain, frustration, and exhaustion rolled down my face, I cried out to God.  I gave up my own plan for my life and asked for His.  It was during this time that I was able to re-write the plan for my life.  I replaced my plan with His vision for me.  I am far from perfect, but God continues to work on me and to reveal His plan day by day.

The same peace and direction that I have can also be yours.

So, what is the play call?  

As you take control of the atmosphere around you, may I encourage you to be silent to see what the Lord will impress on your heart?   You may not hear a thunderous voice coming down from the clouds outside your bedroom window, but you may hear Him speaking in quiet impressions on your heart.

As you sit in His presence, God-inspired thoughts will fill your mind.  He will give you brilliant God-ideas that you could not come up with on your own. This is what you need to write.

It may take some time to develop this new discipline of being still before God and writing the vision. It does not happen overnight, but God blesses us in our consistency.  Small consistent steps toward Him will steadily move you closer.

What Does the ‘Team’ in Team Jesus Mean to You?

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Legendary University of Tennessee Lady Volunteers basketball coach Pat Summitt was diagnosed with early-onset dementia. The 59-year-old, winningest college basketball coach of all time made the announcement and would attempt to continue coaching as long as she could.

It was a shocking announcement not only to UT fans but to sports fans in general. Summitt had always seemed so indestructible. But even the strongest of men and women still face challenges in life that are common to everyone. As the news unfolded, one thing stood out to me, and that was the support that Summitt received from others including her players, both past and present.

One of her athletes, junior guard Taber Spani, made this statement: “As players and coaching staff, we’re in this; we’re all together. This is something we’re going to come together as a group on.”

Throughout her career at UT, Spani had been up-front about her personal faith in Christ, and to me, she certainly brought glory to Him with her words. As Christians, it is our responsibility and honor to bring the love of Christ to those around us who are hurting or in need and to be His hands and feet for them as they face their battle.

Spani hit the nail on the head by saying they were in it as a team. I truly believe that she and the Lady Vols came together in support of their coach and found new depths of camaraderie and teamwork in the process.

And, as followers of Christ, the same thing can happen to us if we allow it.

Team Jesus is Team “We’re All in This Together”

team jesusIn life, we are all parts of various “teams.” Whether those are literal athletic teams or figurative ones such as families, circles of friends, churches, or business offices, these teams all operate on the same concept of working together as a group and offering mutual support.

Teamwork is also a concept that was highlighted in the Bible many times when referencing the Body of Christ (1 Corinthians 3:9). God meant life to be lived out in a total team effort. If lived properly, no one should be in it alone – not when there is a world full of Christians who are called to serve the Lord by serving others. As His representatives here on earth, it is our role to come alongside those who are struggling and offer them His love and support.

Think about your “team” today. Is one of your teammates, friends, coworkers, or family members struggling? If so, take the opportunity to put your faith into action by rallying around them.

It’s a blessing and a responsibility to be the love of Christ to others. Through your actions, they will be able to see and experience the love that God has for them and will be encouraged to trust Him through the challenge. Think about it. 

So, What’s The Play Call?

  1. Think of a time when you’ve been in need and others came alongside you to offer support. How did that make you feel? What did you learn about Christ through that experience?
  2. How does supporting others and working as a team demonstrate Jesus’ love?
  3. Is there someone in your life who needs your support? How can you rally around them and show them the love of Christ?

 

Should the Erosion of Free Speech Worry Christians?

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For years, one of the primary ways that people experienced Donald Trump was through his tweets. All of that changed on January 8, when, in the aftermath of the capitol insurrection, Twitter banned @realDonaldTrump.

“Due to the ongoing tensions in the United States, and an uptick in the global conversation in regards to the people who violently stormed the Capitol on January 6, 2021, these two tweets must be read in the context of broader events in the country and the ways in which the President’s statements can be mobilized by different audiences, including to incite violence, as well as in the context of the pattern of behavior from this account in recent weeks,” read the statement, which included the text of the tweets. “After assessing the language in these Tweets against our Glorification of Violence policy, we have determined that these Tweets are in violation of the Glorification of Violence Policy and the user @realDonaldTrump should be immediately permanently suspended from the service.”

Twitter was not the only social media service to crack down on Trump. Snapchat banned him permanently. Facebook banned Trump’s account through the remainder of his term and suggested it could ban “indefinitely.” Last week, YouTube suspended Trump for a week because they said he violated a violence policy.

This flurry of tech moves has raised questions about free speech and left some Christians wondering how well their First Amendment rights will be protected in the midst of this.

John Inazu is a professor of law and religion at the Washington University Law School. He is the author of Confident Pluralism: Surviving and Thriving through Deep Difference and more recently, with Tim Keller, Uncommon …

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Spiritual Cleaning: A Time to Declutter and Reorganize Your Heart, Mind, and Soul

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Since I have been at home a lot more lately, I’ve been noticing things I can improve or get rid of in my house. This time, it was my bedroom that needed a little touch-up.

It was a Saturday and I had already cleaned everything else in the house. I wasn’t quite sure what I was going for, so I just started pushing my bed to the other side of the room. As I moved the bed, I realized I needed to sweep my floor. There is no carpet, so I could really see the dust floating around on the hardwoods. Initially, I could only push it to the middle of the room because, well, all the other stuff was still in place. It wasn’t until I began shifting everything else that I started to realize what I wanted to do with my space.

Next, I began to move the dresser. Now, my dresser was much heavier than I thought, and I had to move it very carefully as to not scratch the wood. Needless to say, I was ready to be done, but I kept going. It took longer to move it than anything else because I had to be strategic so I didn’t ruin the floor.  

What Will the Process of Spiritual Cleaning Reveal to Us?

spiritual cleaningAs I continued cleaning, I found clothes that I no longer wore and stuff I didn’t use anymore. It was time to get rid of it.

Once I finished moving my furniture, I noticed that I had a lot more space than I thought I did, and I had a lot more stuff than I actually needed. That’s always how it goes though, right? When you really clean, you find that you have more stuff than you need.

Okay, my bedroom has nothing to do with you, but maybe it is time you do some moving and cleaning. Not in your physical house (although if you realize it’s necessary, go for it), but spiritually. There are many times when that old setup doesn’t work anymore and we need a “little touch up”.

In many cases, we don’t discover what the problem actually is until we begin to tidy up around us. We discover that there are things, people, and circumstances that we can do without. Ultimately, we will learn that once we begin to move those things out of our lives, we will have more space for what God desires to be present in our lives.

So, What’s the Play Call?

There is no way to pinpoint what will solve our issues if we do not allow God to lead us. Here are a few things to remember as you change your “room” around for a good spiritual cleaning:

  1. Don’t try to move that weight yourself. I moved my dresser by myself, but I sure wish someone was there to help me. Often, we try to fix our own problems and clean in silence so that nobody knows our struggles. The thing is, God already knows, go to Him for help. “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.” Hebrews 12:1 NLT
  2. Get rid of the clutter. Just like getting rid of stuff I no longer needed in my home, we must do this in our spirits. Sometimes we hold on to feelings, emotions, people, or even things that bog us down and take up space that God wants to fill. Get rid of it. “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalms 51:10
  3. You have got to clean. You can’t just move furniture around and ignore the dust and dirt. That’ll just create a bigger mess in your life. Be willing to get clean. Confess to God, forgive, do whatever it takes to be clean before the Lord. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” 1 John 1:9
  4. Be patient with yourself. Just as it took me longer to move my dresser around, it may take you longer to move some things in your life. “But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.” James 1:4 KJV

One of the most important things to remember is that spiritual cleaning is a process, but it’s necessary. Let go of the clutter that is taking up the space God wants to fill. 

 

When God Asks You to Pray for Difficult People

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Dreaded Encounters

I regularly encounter a person who makes me uncomfortable. She’s brash and rude. She’s one of those people you can’t tell anything. And, when she’s wrong, you can’t find a drop of humility. She brags about not getting along with anyone. And, she’s often praised for her behavior.

I’ve tried being friendly. I’ve tried being positive. But, when I see her – I cringe. I want to walk the other way. I just wish she wasn’t present.  

Recently, she’s been popping into my head. And, each time I think of her that same feeling of dread and disgust washes over me.

And, I’d ask myself, “Why are you even thinking about her?” I even tried to pray her away, “Lord, please remove her from my mind.”

Pray for Difficult People Like They’re You.

One morning, I was trying to knock any thoughts of her out of my head when I heard the Spirit, “I don’t bring her to mind for you to speak badly about her. I bring her to mind for you to pray for her.”

Now, I’m no stranger to prayer, and I’m pretty sure I prayed for her the first time I encountered her nastiness, so I felt a little like “Really?” when I heard these instructions.

I can’t give you any miraculous updates as a result of these prayers because, well, I haven’t witnessed any. But, only God knows the heart of a man.

I just want to remind you that the situation and/or person you find popping into your head, filling you with dread, anxiety, fear, and frustration – pray about it and/or pray for them!

And, I don’t mean my “God, remove ’em” prayer. Pray about them the same way you pray about you. I’m sure my initial prayer for her was nice, but now I pray for her as if she’s me.

Lord, I pray for her financial situation. I pray for healing from past hurts. I pray for peace. I pray God that you’d make her heart flesh again. I pray for Your grace and mercy to cover her…

And, I do this each time she crosses my mind.

I’ll be sure to update you when God allows me to see His work. But, until then, I’ll just keep believing that He that began a good work in her will see it to completion (Philippians 1:6).

So, what’s the play call?

Remember there’s nothing too hard for God. No situation is too hopeless. He doesn’t laugh at small matters and He doesn’t run from the large ones. God cares about what concerns you.

I know it feels good to share with your spouse or your friends, but how long does that last? Taking our cares to God not only transfers them from our shoulders onto His, but we can also rest in the fact that He’s working it all out for His glory.

 

Leave a prayer for a difficult person in YOUR life in the comments…

We Must Cut Off the Bad Habits That Hinder Our Walk With God

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In any sport, athletes are susceptible to adopting a number of bad habits that can hinder them from becoming the best athletes and teammates they can be. Whether it is a sloppy technique or poor reads, any bad habit prevents them from becoming the “perfect” athlete that players in their sport strive to become.

Just as bad habits can plague athletic performance, sin hinders us in our spiritual performance; or, better stated, it hinders our relationship with Jesus Christ.

Paul recognizes this in Romans 3:23 when he writes that “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” We are all forced to face temptations, and no matter how many times we pass or fail, we are still “justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus” (Romans 3:24).

How Can We Cut Off Bad Habits?

stuckHow do we rid ourselves of these “bad habits”? In Mark 9, Jesus tells us that we must cut off the causes of our sin in order to build a stronger relationship with Him: “If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off,” and “if your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out.” But when our minds are the sources of our sins, how do we cut it off?

In Romans 12:2, Paul tells us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds – to create minds that don’t conform to the patterns of sin in this world, but to the patterns laid out by our Savior. Minds that accept the Holy Spirit, whom Jesus says “will bring glory to me by taking from what is mine and making it known to you” (John 16:14).

In addressing our bad habits, we as Christians shouldn’t just be sorry for them, but we must ultimately hate the sin that plagues our lives – a plague that is lifted from us as we repent of our sins and accept Jesus as Lord and Savior.

Jesus is the only Way, so let’s listen to Him!

 

So, What’s The Play Call?

Think about it:

  1. What are some bad habits in your private or public life that you need to stop?
  2. What are some strategies to overcome these habits?
  3. How can you apply the Word of God to these habits?

 

Emotions Lie: You’re Not Disconnected From God

Disconnected From God

Ever been through a season when you felt disconnected from the Lord? You couldn’t quite put your finger on what changed, but you know there was a shift.

I’ve been there myself, and it’s not fun.

You might start to wonder what is wrong with you and beat yourself up thinking that somehow you’ve missed something. Team, this is a lie from the enemy!

The Bible tells us that neither death nor life, angels nor demons, neither present nor future, not any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus (Romans 8:38-39). What a beautiful promise!

Got That Disconnected Feeling?

disconnected from godIt’s crazy that we can feel something so strongly and yet it couldn’t be any farther from the truth. There are many reasons that our emotions and moods fluctuate. It could be our diet, lack of sleep, external situations that arise, etc.

But when we have feelings that contradict the Word, we have to decide if we believe God or not. We have to be led by the Spirit and not by the flesh, even though the flesh can be so persuasive.

It feels wrong not to lean into our feelings, to ignore things that pop up in our minds, and reason with us. But we are not ignorant of the devil’s devices – the enemy comes to steal kill and destroy (John 10:10).

While I was experiencing this recently and trying to discern what was going on, I started assessing my routines and behaviors. I asked myself, do I read my Bible regularly? Do I really love God? Maybe I need to pray more, fast more, maybe I need to give more. I analyzed everything in my life looking for fault – some problem I could blame for feeling disconnected so that I could repent and move forward with God.

The Bible says that the devil is the accuser of the brethren (Revelations 12:10). It was very subtle, but the enemy crept in and had me convinced there was a problem with me, and I condemned myself.

Days of this, as you might imagine, is very exhausting. So, I decided I’m done with this. I am going to focus on God. Just God. I started thanking Him for His grace and mercy, and for creating me. I thanked God for being all-knowing and planning my days before the foundation of the world (Psalm 139:16). I worshiped Him for who He is, despite my own shortcomings and weaknesses. As soon I redirected my focus toward Him, that self-condemning spirit left me! It was like the scales fell from my eyes. There is value in self-examination and being aware, but to be overly scrutinizing so is counterproductive.

You’re Closer to God Than You Know

presence of GodI want to encourage you, Team Jesus. if you’re feeling disconnected from God, remove yourself from the equation. We love God because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). We follow Him because He is the way the truth and the life (John 14:6). The Bible says that God inhabits the praises of His people (Psalm 22:3). So praise Him when you’re feeling far and know that He is near. And remember Proverbs 15:3 – the eyes of the Lord are in every place, watching good and evil.

There are times when you’re feeling distant because of sin as well. Maybe you’ve backslidden and don’t know how to get back on track. Guess what, Jesus loves you, and love covers a multitude of sin. He is God enough to restore you and finish the work He began in you (Philippians 1:6).

Feeling Disconnected from God? Connected With the Word

Psalm 100:4 says, Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise. You can get to God anytime you want! He wants you to come to Him and to trust Him with your troubles.

Psalm 51 is a great place to start. David pours out his heart in this powerful Psalm asking for forgiveness and cleansing, and in verse 14 and 15 he says, “deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, oh God the God of my salvation and my tongue shall sing aloud of Your righteousness, oh Lord open my lips and my mouth shall show forth Your praise.” So, we see that guilt stifles your praise. But we have a high priest that was also tempted (and did not sin – Hebrews 4:15); He wants to heal and deliver you.

Once I started praising God and got past my feelings of disconnect, it turns out that God did reveal to me something that I had been running from, something He was leading me to do that I began to shy away from.

I didn’t let it get me down. I think it’s beautiful to know that God wanted me to sense His closeness and know that He would never leave me nor forsake me. He didn’t tell me what I missed while I was self-condemning, He taught me how to get past that guilt with praise, and then when my joy was restored He revealed to me what the problem was.

Our relationship with God is so meaningful to Him. It was the first order of business; before our assignments, God wants us.

So, What’s the Play Call?

  1. Nothing can separate you from the love of God! Don’t allow the enemy to make you feel distant from your Heavenly Father.
  2. Don’t always associate your feelings with the truth. If it doesn’t align with the word of God, don’t dwell on it. Confess scripture and walk after the spirit.
  3. God wants you more than anything, He loves you and He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die for you!

 

Are the ’81 Percent’ Evangelicals? Is 81 Percent Accurate?

Evangelical support for President Donald Trump wasn’t enough to win him another term. But it was enough to confirm evangelicals’ reputation among the broader public as perhaps the Trumpiest demographic in America.

Whether that perception is fair is disputable, certainly. The well-known report that 81 percent of evangelicals voted for Trump in 2016 was never really accurate. Derived from exit polls, it ignored the millions of evangelicals who didn’t vote for Trump because they didn’t vote at all. Widely shared as descriptive of the whole evangelical vote, it only considered white voters, though evangelicalism is increasingly racially diverse.

It also counted as evangelical anyone who simply claimed the label, though self-identification is a messy metric that includes “evangelicals” who don’t believe or behave as longstanding definitions of evangelicalism stipulate. And, after all those qualifications, it wasn’t even 81 percent: Later, better studies put that figure in the mid-70s, matching the very consistent rate at which self-identified white evangelical voters supported other recent GOP nominees.

But will any of this nuance, or whatever shifts in evangelical voting patterns may appear in the 2020 data, make a difference? I don’t think so. “Americans seem to increasingly view evangelicals through a political lens,” the Barna Group summarized in survey results from late 2019. For many of our compatriots, “evangelicals” are first and foremost a voting bloc. A term intended to signal views on salvation, Scripture, and service now communicates political alignment with a single party and a president.

The defensibility of that …

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The Top 50 Countries For Christian Persecution in 2021

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Every day, 13 Christians worldwide are killed because of their faith.

Every day, 12 churches or Christian buildings are attacked.

And every day, 12 Christians are unjustly arrested or imprisoned, and another 5 are abducted.

So reports the 2021 World Watch List (WWL), the latest annual accounting from Open Doors of the top 50 countries where Christians are the most persecuted for following Jesus.

“You might think the [list] is all about oppression. … But the [list] is really all about resilience,” stated David Curry, president and CEO of Open Doors USA, introducing the report released today.

“The numbers of God’s people who are suffering should mean the Church is dying—that Christians are keeping quiet, losing their faith, and turning away from one another,” he stated. “But that’s not what’s happening. Instead, in living color, we see the words of God recorded in the prophet Isaiah: ‘I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.’ (Isaiah 43:19, ESV)”

The listed nations comprise 309 million Christians living in places with very high or extreme levels of persecution, up from 260 million in last year’s list.

Another 31 million could be added from the 24 nations that fall just outside the top 50—such as Cuba, Sri Lanka, and the United Arab Emirates (UAE)—for a ratio of 1 in 8 Christians worldwide facing persecution. This includes 1 in 6 believers in Africa and 2 out of 5 in Asia.

Last year, 45 nations scored high enough to register “very high” persecution levels on Open Doors’ 84-question matrix. This year, for the first time in 29 years of tracking, all 50 qualified—as did 4 more nations that fell just outside the cutoff.

Open Doors identified three main trends driving last year’s increase:

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4 Fabulous Ways to Know When You Have Forgiven Someone

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Forgive.

forgiveIt’s one of those play calls for Team Jesus that has challenged the best and most upright Pastor, Church Mother, and saint at one point or another. When we are hurt, damaged, or betrayed by someone, it’s not in our human nature to naturally forgive.

Forgiving others will rarely be as easy as breathing or blinking. It takes work and intentionality to begin – and end – the process of forgiveness.

It (Forgiveness) is Finished

But, how can we tell when the process is over? Is forgiveness ever over?

The journey to (and through) forgiveness takes time; it processes us through many phases – from hate, anger, denial, acceptance and back again. I believe there is a point where the process of forgiveness is complete. In my own journeys to forgiveness, the following signs have guided me to rest from the work of forgiveness.

Have you reached these fabulous signs of forgiveness?

1. When you can speak of the offense from a point of reference vs. a point of pain

When you talk about what “they did”, is your context one of reference or reliving the painful situation? When we reference a past event, we simply state that the event happened. We know we’re reliving a situation if we speak about it, and it evokes all of its negative emotions and energy around the subject.

The ability to reference vs. relive a hurtful event doesn’t just fall out of the sky. But, as forgiveness matures in your heart, you will be able to feel less and less pain regarding the incident, until one day you can speak that “it happened” vs. internalizing “the pain that happened to me”.

2. When revenge, payback, retaliation becomes a non-issue.

“Get ‘em, Jesus!” How many can raise their hand in transparency, that you wanted some extreme evil, some deadly disease or misfortune to happen to the one who hurt you? Lord Jesus, please forgive and heal our revenge-like nature!

With hand raised, I can say that when you honestly and truthfully wish the person the best, when you hope no harm comes to them, when they no longer have to pay penance for what they did, your forgiveness has reached a beautiful milestone of completeness.

3. When you’ve stopped hiding behind “I let it go.”

Letting go is absolutely a part of forgiveness. But, how many of our “let go’s” are simply a feeble attempt to avoid conflict and/or bury the pain?

I remember my carefully crafted masks of “that doesn’t bother me anymore” and “I’m really not phased.” All lies! If you’re committed to the forgiveness process and honest with yourself, you’ll eventually learn that buried pain does not equal forgiveness.

Hiding unforgiveness behind denial will only prolong your pain and stunt your healing. It takes work to honestly “let it go”, and when you do, the pain will no longer claw its way back to the surface.

4. When you can fully accept that God loves the offender just as much as He loves you.

Depending on the offense, sometimes it’s hard to comprehend how God can love someone who did something so horrible to us. Remember that God will never forsake others in loyal response to our hurt. God is loyal only to his Word (Psalms 138:2); God is not tempted with evil (James 1:13).

At the onset of our pain, we deem ourselves “higher, or better” than the person who offended us. But, as we walk through forgiveness, our sense of self in relation to the offender miraculously evens out. We’re able to own that we ourselves have done wrong and that we all need God’s love and forgiveness – who gives it freely to us all.

Now, the signs above should not be confused with when to trust a person again. I fully believe that you can forgive someone completely without allowing yourself to trust them again, or give them close access to your heart. The stages of Trust evolve from a pattern of consistent, trustworthy behavior over time (we’ll save that for another post).

So, What’s the Play Call?

For now, sign up, Team! Make that intentional choice to cooperate with the process of forgiveness, and do your work. God’s grace and love will guide you through to the end, where He’s waiting with a big smile and a proud “Well done!”

Tell us about your forgiveness journey in the comments…

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