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5 Red Flags to Distinguish Walking by Faith vs. Fear

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Let’s Talk About Faith

If asked, “Do you have faith?”, most of us would immediately respond “Yes!”

But, how can we be so sure, so optimistic? Faith is much different than optimism. Optimism is having a positive outlook and perspective, but faith is the substance of things we hope for when there’s nothing positive in sight (Hebrews 11:1). Faith is a verb – optimism is a noun. A person can be optimistic all day long and not walk by faith.

The Bible says that without faith it is impossible to please God (Hebrews 11:6), so it’s important that we evaluate our hearts to be sure we are operating in faith.

More Faith, Less Fear

It’s a shame that most Christians only exercise faith in a crisis. God is a deliverer and a healer, but He also wants to bring you into promise.

The opposite of faith is fear. Fear cripples us in the body of Christ and it hinders our progress. If we’re not careful, we can be deceived and mix these concepts up. There are a few red flags that will alert you to a fear factor at work in you. My hope is that you overcome them quickly and move on to what the Lord has for you. Let’s take a look:

1. Faith is action-oriented.

When you have faith in God, you walk in full expectation – so, prepare!

When I came across the listing for my current job, it was right on time. It pays well, it was in an area where I desired to work, and I was qualified. I had faith in God and believed that He would give me this position, but my faith wasn’t enough – I had to put in work.

After I applied for the job, I called them once a week to check the status of my application. One day, I even got dressed up and went down to the HR and Recruitment department to speak with someone. I also began to make arrangements for childcare so that my daughter would be set when my hours changed. I prayed earnestly and I got the job! Faith without works is dead (James 2:14).

2. Faith is specific.

Fear will have you justifying all kinds of mishaps with clichés like “everything happens for a reason”. Faith is when you know that you know and you move accordingly.

One sure way to tell if you’re walking in fear is when you are leery about being too specific in your petitions to God. Building your personal relationship with God is key because He will confirm His word to you and give you discernment. Our faith empowers us to go boldly before the throne of grace to find help in our times of need (Hebrews 4:6).

3. Faith has tunnel vision; fear is easily distracted.

When you’re walking by faith, all hell can break loose around you, and you will not be moved! It is possible to overlook your current circumstances and still believe.

Fear will have you thinking, “Well, since this happened – maybe I heard wrong.” NO! Please understand that the devil does not care that you received a Word from God. He will fight tooth and nail to see that it never manifests. Faith focuses on what God said, making everything else irrelevant.

4. Faith has patience; fear is anxious.

Faith is patient because it trusts and believes God. Fear is anxious because it doubts God.

There are times when you can truly believe that your fear is justified. Maybe you or a loved one is sick, or perhaps you need your rent money by tomorrow and your next paycheck is a week away. It could be something big to you, but NOTHING is impossible to those who believe (Mark 9:23). Worry and stress is a sign that you’re walking by fear.

5. Faith is not foolish; fear loves folly.

Please don’t spend your money frivolously, then try to fast and pray for God to provide. That’s not how this works. Exercise your common sense and good judgment because God gave us all the ability to reason. God is not our personal genie in a bottle. Be a good steward over what He has given you (time, gifts, resources) so that He can trust you with more.

So, What’s the play call?

Be intentional about growing your faith! The Bible says we go from faith to faith, glory to glory (2 Corinthians 3:18). Jesus said that we can ask anything in His name and it will be given to us (John 14:13), so let’s ask Him to increase our faith so that we will be pleasing in His sight.

Put God to the test! Ask God to show you an area in your life where your faith is weak. What do you need that you can’t do for yourself? For example, I applied for my job, but I couldn’t hire myself.

Wait on the Lord. Be patient, Team. Anxiety is fear in disguise. When we wait on God, not wavering, but with joy and peace, we show ourselves faithful.

If you ever feel like things aren’t happening when they should, remember that God’s timing is perfect. Don’t let doubt threaten your faith and cloud your focus.

Remember that fear is usually the fruit – not the root. Through prayer and fasting, get to the bottom of what is causing you fear or anxiety. Break its bondage off your life!

Be blessed.

10 Tips for Managing a Healthy Long Distance Relationship

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Most days, my husband and I are no more than 70 feet apart from each other. This is the distance from his garage to my home office.

The working arrangement we have gives us the opportunity to eat our meals together, as well as stay physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually connected. Plus, it allows us to manage our daily routines together, and blend into each others’ work.

There are days that I serve in the garage as the secretary, parts deliverer, customer service representative, and the navigator for roadside customers who need immediate mobile service. I am truly working on being the ultimate helpmate to my husband.

When I think about how far we’ve come, there was a point in our marriage where we were over 1,300 miles away from each other! However, even with the distance and the slight difference in time, we managed to carve out moments to emotionally and spiritually feed our relationship to ensure that the cord that bound us did not break.

This reflective moment made me think how blessed we are, and what God has done and is doing for us. But, I can only wonder – how many couples allow physical distance to create division in their relationships?

How can couples use distance as a multiplier – not a divider?

Long Distance Relationship Tips

Here are a few tips that may help you and your spouse thrive in a long distance relationship. This list is not limited to physical distance alone, but can also be used to strengthen your marriage against mental, emotional, and spiritual distance as well.

1. Say what’s on your heart and mind to keep clear communications.

Do not expect your mate to read between the lines. Practice repeating what you heard your spouse say to eliminate confusion. This will make sure the deliverer and receiver walk away with the same message. Clear and transparent communication will eliminate presumptions and misinterpretations.

2. Stretch your imagination to come up with new and creative ways to show acts of love.

Learn your mate’s Love Language. Even if you are not physically present, your love can still be felt.  For instance, if your spouse’s love language is Service, and you usually keep all the vehicles fueled, make use of service providers, e.g. mobilefuel.me to deliver gasoline right to your mate’s door.

If your spouse’s love language is Touch, give your mate an item of clothing sprayed with your favorite scent to wrap up in during times of absence.

3. Send tokens that speak your heart to their heart.

Written love letters, voice-recorded love affirmations, and videotaped love confessions are a few examples of how to articulate your heart.  If you are more artsy, write a poem or song that expresses your feelings for your mate.

4. Spend time planning when you’ll be together physically and how to use the time most efficiently.

Reuniting for the weekend? Create a schedule to allow for quality time together, not just busy work or chores – which are necessary, but not necessarily a priority.  Have a DATENIGHT schedule and a separate Honey DO list.

5. Stand up for the things that bring harmony to your home.

Don’t participate in activities that will hurt you or your partner. Maintaining your spiritual, emotional, and mental health positively affects your mate, though they may be miles away. Continue to share in making critical decisions together to build a joint understanding of the relationship and boundaries.

6. Strengthen your friendship by learning more through discovery techniques.

Play the Newlywed Game with each other; ask probing but fun questions to identify likes and dislikes. This activity will help you to connect as friends and lifelong partners so you aren’t strangers when you come together.

7. Choose friends who respect and nurture a strong relationship of their own.

Associate with couples who are strong in their marriage to give support to yours. Connect with people who have successfully navigated the “long distance” waters, who can give advice and encouragement during trying times.

8. Search for ways to lift each other privately and publicly.

Use your social media networks wisely to highlight the good in your relationship. Share your testimony of strength with those you trust in your network.

When duty calls, sacrifice to be there to support your mate when they need it the most.

9. Strip away things, people, or thoughts that can be potential distractions.

Cut out any excess extra-curricular activities that take away from “couple time” when you come together.  Make sure your friends and loved ones respect your reunited time with each other. During lengthy seasons apart, choose prayer over porn to protect your mate’s place in your mind and spirit.

10. Step outside of expected roles and become what you each need.

Don’t get caught up in societal roles such as who does the housework versus lawn work.  Allow these duties to be outsourced, if possible, as to not create a burden on anyone. If outsourcing does not fit your finances, work together to address concerns that can be handled by the individual who is home. But, don’t stress or overwhelm the traveling partner with extra duties.

So, What’s the Play Call?

Do not allow anything, not even distance, to separate what God has joined together (Mark 10:9).

Keep a grip on your feelings and emotions so you don’t build walls between you and your mate.

Keep your mind focused on those things that keep each of you on the same path together, so you won’t stray in opposite directions.

 

How do you manage the health of your long distance relationship?

Achan’s Sin: Why the Body of Christ Rises and Falls Together

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Truths Revealed

Have you ever re-read a book or watched a movie you’ve already seen?

Did you find something new that you might not have noticed the first time?

That’s how I felt while reading through the book of Joshua.

I’ve heard the story of Israel’s battle at Jericho – how they kept quiet for days, marched around the city, and finally let out a shout of triumph to see the walls come tumbling down. But, what happened after their victory is the part I missed, and it’s, unfortunately, a story and lesson for us today in itself.

God’s Instruction After the Victory

Just before the city of Jericho was destroyed, Joshua reminded his people of the Lord’s command:

The city and all that is in it are to be devoted to the Lord…keep away from the devoted things, so that you will not bring about your own destruction by taking any of them. Otherwise, you will make the camp of Israel liable to destruction…” (Joshua 6:17-18)

A man named Achan chose to be disobedient and secretly took for himself gold, silver, and a beautiful robe. In their next battle against the people of Ai, Israel is defeated. Their leader Joshua is mourning over their loss when the Lord speaks:

Israel has sinned; they have violated my covenant, which I commanded them to keep…They have stolen, they have lied, they have put them with their own possessions. That is why the Israelites cannot stand against their enemies.” (Joshua 7:11-12)

The story goes on to share that Achan and his family were stoned and all his possessions destroyed. Israel went on to defeat Ai and their covenant with the Lord was renewed.

We Are One, Unified Body

These few verses in the Bible are so intense that it might seem impossible to apply anything learned here to our lives today. But, I found three important truths to help us with that:

The Body of Christ is affected by its smallest part.

It seems extreme for one man’s sin to affect the entire population of God’s people, right? Maybe if it was Joshua, the leader, who fell short, it would be easier to accept. I believe this is due to a lack of true unity in the Body. If my pinky toe were cut off, all of my focus would be on repairing that injury before continuing in my purpose as a body.

We must keep each other accountable.

I’m sure the Israelites thought it incredibly unfair that they had to lose lives in battle just because of one man’s greed. That point could be argued, but it won’t be won. God designed for us to be our brother’s keeper, to look out for one another (Galatians 6:2). We have an obligation to love our brothers and sisters with the truth of God’s Word.

We are to be hidden in Christ.

The Colossians 3:3 declares that our lives have been hidden in Christ. I’d like to suggest that this verse means we are hidden in Christ’s Body; that as we confess our sins one to another, healing is so readily available because our aim isn’t to expose each other, but rather cover our fellow believers (James 5:16).

So, What’s the Play Call?

There’s necessity and beauty in being unified through Christ. Let’s recognize the value each member of the Body possesses, keeping our brothers and sisters accountable to live lives that point to Jesus. And, let us pursue healing as we promise to cover one another so that the world would see Christ through our love (1 John 4:12).

CeCe Winans Snags Double Grammys for “Let Them Fall in Love”

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Two for Two! Some things just never get old.  Gospel music veteran CeCe Winans continues to make her mark on the music industry and all those who have embraced her distinctive vocal sound and message of love.

Fans and peers agree that Winans’ latest musical journey has been one of her best and creative to date.

Encouraged by her son, Alvin, to record the Kris Kristofferson hit “Why Me Lord” has opened new doors for Winans, paving the way for unchartered territories.  Appearances on national stages like Austin City Limits (PBS), CMA Country Christmas (ABC) and The Grand Ole Opry introduced her to new audiences.  The singer’s series of summer dates at Grand Ole Opry made her the first artist to perform in honor of Black Music Month for the brand.

The first string of Grammy wins were announced prior to the live broadcast in New York City.  Winans was nominated for two top awards and snagged them both: Best Gospel Album and Best Gospel Performance/Song.  The latest additions take the total count up to 12 Grammy wins for the dynamic singer.

Let Them Fall in Love is my best project ever!  I am humbled and honored for two Grammy wins!  Thank you to the visionary, Alvin Love III and everyone who made this project what it is.  Also, thank you to NARAS and my prayer is that the world will hear this music and Fall In Love!” says Winans.

Every seat was filled at Madison Square Garden when the 60th Grammy Awards aired live on CBS Television, Sunday night.  The prestigious music awards show was hosted, once again, by James Corden.  The stars turned out in full force to witness great performances and show their support of the nominees.  Visit www.grammy.com for more details.

Alvin Love III, Winans’ son and Co-Producer of Let Them Fall in Love, experienced his first Grammy win and had this to say, “What a night! Thanks to a team of the most talented musicians and engineers, Let Them Fall in Love scored two Grammys. Thank you, Mom. Thank you Jesus!”

Stay connected with CeCe by joining her on FaceBook, Instagram, Twitter @cecewinans and www.cecewinans.com

 

Godly Advice for the Introvert Who’s Ready to be Social

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I’m Ready to Come Out

I’ve always been more on the reserved side, even though I love people and I value my relationships. I would open up after getting to know a person, but I have always wanted to be more outgoing.

I think every friend I’ve made initiated a conversation with me and then the friendship took off from there. Thinking about it makes me wonder how many awesome people I probably didn’t meet because I was extremely shy.

Not to mention that being friendly comes in handy in public social settings. As much as I hated playing the wallflower, I just couldn’t bring myself to go up to a random person and just say hello. If I did, it likely wouldn’t go much farther than that because I felt awkward in those scenarios. It got to a point where I would try to avoid group events where I didn’t know the majority of people there. How sad, right?!

Exiled No More, Break Free from Shyness

After a while, I disliked being on the island and made up my mind to be friendlier. It was time for me to grow out of my shyness.

I still have more room to grow, but I am much better than I was. Here are 5 ways to help if you’re an introvert who’s trying to break out of your shell:

1. Get out of your head.

Most introverts overthink EVERYTHING. We’re in our head planning a response to a question that hasn’t even been asked. Seriously, I have had so many “potential” conversations in my head playing out all possible outcomes and exhausting myself in the process. Most of the time that’s enough to make me change my mind about doing whatever I was going to do!

Also, if you overthink a situation you’ll get into it and end up feeling self-conscious and making things much worse than they are. it’s okay to be introspective and thoughtful, but you can’t live in there – get out of your head.

2. Practice being friendly by speaking to passersby.

When on your commute or in an elevator, say hello and make eye contact with people to get your feet wet. To this day, I struggle with this! Here’s a tip – you have about 3 seconds to speak to someone when you encounter them. If you wait too long, it seems weird when you finally speak. Walk with your head up and smile. When you are passing by someone close enough to speak – do it!

3. Volunteer to do tasks that put you in a position to network.

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If you’re planning an event or program, it may be easier for you to speak to a stranger versus just randomly starting a conversation at the event. Do this often, you’ll be a big help and you can strengthen your social skills. Organizing an event involves working with a team of people – and teamwork builds confidence. Also, try throwing your own get-togethers and invite people you don’t typically hang out with (along with your usual gang). There will be less pressure on you – plus you have the home court advantage.

4. Join a social group/club or take a class that requires interaction.

Book clubs, mommy-and-me outings, PTA, church life groups are all great resources and opportunities for connection. You’d be surprised – there are many people just like you who are looking to break their shy shell as well. You just might take the pressure off of someone else with your friendly smile.

Try these ideas for mingling with new people without your current bestie by your side. He or she might be a crutch for you in group settings.

5. Pray and be patient.

Cancel fear and intimidation in Jesus’ name, and if you have an #AwkwardMoment, learn to have patience and laugh at yourself! It’s okay. My problem with being shy comes from insecurity. It might be different for you, but you have to get to the root of it and overcome it with the Word.

I used to be concerned with people’s opinion of me, and so I became consumed with being “likable” which is a horrible way to live. I got over this by changing my inner dialogue, canceling the negative thoughts, and asking God to make me comfortable with the woman He created me to be.

We are all social beings and relationships are the most important thing on earth.  Psalm 133:1 says, “How good and pleasant it is when God’s people live together in unity”. We truly need one another.

Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, ”two are better than one”, and verse 12 says, “three are even better”. There is power in numbers!

In Genesis chapter 11, the people decided to make a great city and a tower whose top sits in the heavens. And God said, “indeed the people are one…nothing they propose to do will be too hard for them.

God said when we unite, nothing can stop us! But, we can’t unite if we keep to ourselves and refuse to connect with others. There could be someone out there with an encouraging word for you or the key that’ll unlock your next level.

There’s no time to be timid. Doing something as simple as talking to a stranger can open up a door for you and make a world of difference in your life.

So, let’s stop living in isolation, Team.

SO, WHAT’S THE PLAY CALL?

The Bible says, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly” (Proverbs 18:24).

Fellow introverts, there’s only one way out. Be FRIENDLY!

Put yourself out there, be intentional about building new relationships.

Pray and ask God to give you boldness and confidence.

Don’t take yourself too seriously – relax and stop over analyzing.

God Bless.

 

Fuel Up & Show Up: 5 Healthy Strategies to Stay Energized All Day

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Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us (Hebrews 12:1, NIV).

Ready, Set, GO Ye Therefore!

You are called to run a race.  Not an easy race.  No, this is a purpose-driven, God-ordained endurance race.  It requires stamina, energy, and vitality. The way you nourish and care for your body determines how well you can run and how long you will last.  When your physical body is not well fueled, it makes you vulnerable.

More than ever, we are reaching for our favorite mojo or energy drinks to give us an energy “boost” during the day.  Whether first thing in the morning, mid-afternoon, or while burning the midnight oil finishing projects from the day, people are grabbing for quick fix energy sources, hoping to achieve alertness, mental clarity and the motivation to move forward.  

While a solid night of rest is necessary and shouldn’t be neglected, there are many solutions to boosting energy during the day that don’t require a trip to the local coffee shop drive-thru.

If you want to wake up, show up, and be ready to tackle what God has put in front of you, these strategies will jumpstart and sustain your energy all day long.  

Drink An Extra Glass of Water or 2

drinking waterWater has dozens of beneficial effects on the body. You just can’t go wrong!  Interestingly, even mild dehydration has been shown to affect mood, coordination, and mental clarity. Staying energized during the day means staying mentally alert and focused.  Water is your simple, accessible solution to keep your energy flowing all day long.  

Begin your day by waking up and drinking 16 ounces first thing, before anything else. Don’t forget to take your water bottle with you everywhere and keep refilling throughout the day. If drinking water is a struggle, play a game with yourself by setting some small goals to hit as the day progresses.  Apps on your phone can chime and remind you to take a sip or 2 throughout the day, too. But there are many more strategies to help you out so find one that works for you.   

Go take a sip and get refreshed!

Begin Your Day With Breakfast

stay energized with breakfastFood is energy.  If you want more energy, you have to eat.  It’s why college students eat into the wee hours of the morning while cramming for exams.  You have to eat for an energy boost.  Your body metabolizes the food into a usable source of energy.  If you want to hit the ground running, grab a healthy breakfast before you get going.  Just like lunch and dinner, breakfast should include a healthy source of fiber, protein, and fat.  

Carbohydrates containing fiber like whole grains, beans, veggies, and fruit slow the release of sugar into your bloodstream, giving you a steady flow of energy for hours.  

Breakfast is probably one of the least planned meals each day, but it need not be complicated or time-consuming.  

Quick Breakfast Ideas

  • 1 small banana with 2 tablespoons peanut or almond butter – 2 real food ingredients that are the perfect match of sweet and salty.
  • Overnight Oats – toss together the night before for a no-prep breakfast that is ready to go.
  • Egg Muffins – packed with protein and veggies, these are as satisfying as they are tasty! Make a large batch on the weekend and rewarm in the microwave on busy mornings.
  • Slow Cooker Steel Cut Oats – An easy breakfast full of fiber that cooks while you are sleeping. It’s ready for fun toppings come dawn!

Include Protein and/or Healthy Fat at Every Meal & Snack

Protein and fat take longer for digestion and therefore slow the release of sugar into your body.  When carbohydrate foods are eaten solely or as the primary component of the meal, they raise blood glucose quicker.  While this burst of energy may seem nice at first, it gives you a false sense of energy because it is quickly followed by an energy crash.

Carbohydrates like fruit, whole grains, and beans are smart choices, but you will have energy for longer when you pair them with quality protein or healthy fat.  By doing this, it slows the release of glucose into your bloodstream so that you avoid the sugar spikes and lows.

popcornLearn more about healthy snacking here and grab the free printable with more than a dozen quick and healthy snack ideas.  But these packaged snacks are also options when you are in a pinch.  My motto is to “never leave the house without one!”

Avoid Highly Refined Carbohydrate and Sugar

Treats are fun and pleasurable!  But sugar and refined carbohydrates will deceive you every single time.  Just when you think your energy is revving high, it will crash and burn. Every time.  

If energy is what we are after, sugar will take us down the wrong path. Don’t fall for this faux source of energy- it’s deceptive!

While sodas and sweetened beverages continue to be the primary source of added sugar in the American diet, it is hidden in lots of foods, even foods that sound healthy. Enjoy a treat when you choose, but don’t be misled that sugar will energize you… unless you decide to consume it all day long.

Eat a Balanced Meal or Snack Every 3-5 hours

A healthy, balanced meal provides sustained energy for about 3-5 hours, depending on the size and composition of the meal.  “Hangry” happens when our bodies are crying out for nourishment because we have stretched them too far.  Proper fueling needs to happen regularly, on weekdays and weekends, if you want to feel and enjoy sustained energy.

Meal skippers get excited – more energy could be waiting for you!  If you struggle with eating regularly, due to forgetfulness or busy schedules, you can remedy this by setting an alarm and packing your bag with a healthy snack. Don’t get stuck without one!

So, what’s the play call?

Your wonderfully made body is what allows you to pursue all the fun, life-giving adventures packed into your calling.  When our physical bodies are not well-nourished and energized, we are vulnerable.  

Lethargy, irritability, and fatigue influence our ability to serve others well.  If you are searching for more energy and vitality to live your days well, it’s time to check your nutrition plan and make sure it is working for you.  

When you fuel up properly, you can show up exceptionally.

 

References

Popkin, B. M., D’Anci, K. E., & Rosenberg, I. H. (2010). Water, Hydration and Health. Nutrition Reviews, 68(8), 439–458. http://doi.org/10.1111/j.1753-4887.2010.00304.x

Centers for Disease Control & Prevention. Know Your Limit of Added Sugars. Page last updated September 9, 2016.  https://www.cdc.gov/nutrition/data-statistics/know-your-limit-for-added-sugars.html

Are You Toiling With Obligation or Rejoicing in Relationship?

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Today’s Scripture Lesson: Psalms 39, 44

Today, we continue our study of the Psalms. We will be looking closely at Psalms 39 and 44. These two Psalms are attributed to David (39) and the Sons of Korah (44). (If you don’t know Korah, you can learn his story in Numbers 16. It isn’t particularly flattering.)

As always, I ask you to read the passages on your own in their entirety.

Mirror, Mirror of the Psalms

Let’s face it, we live in a sinful world and, although varying in degree and frequency with spiritual maturity, we still sin. Sometimes it is blatant defiance, while other times it is something much more subtle, to which others may not even notice and just give us a free pass. Sometimes those sins are so subtle, as the perpetrators, even we are oblivious to the insidious path we travel.

I believe it is because of this subtle sin that God has given us the book of Psalms. Each Psalm is a mirror to hold up before our very soul. They reveal us, even though we “see through the mirror dimly.” I suppose our sinful, earthly minds would be crushed entirely if we viewed them in Ultra High Definition. With a submitted heart, they can flatten us as it is.

Let’s look at some Scripture:

Psalm 39:

4 “LORD, make me to know my end
And what is the extent of my days;
Let me know how transient I am.

5 “Behold, You have made my days as handbreadths,
And my lifetime as nothing in Your sight;
Surely every man at his best is a mere breath.

7  “And now, Lord, for what do I wait?
My hope is in You.

8  “Deliver me from all my transgressions;
Make me not the reproach of the foolish.

11 “With reproofs You chasten a man for iniquity;
You consume as a moth what is precious to him;
Surely every man is a mere breath.

12  “Hear my prayer, O LORD, and give ear to my cry;
Do not be silent at my tears;
For I am a stranger with You,
A sojourner like all my fathers.

Psalm 44:

6  For I will not trust in my bow,
Nor will my sword save me.

7  But You have saved us from our adversaries,
And You have put to shame those who hate us.

8  In God we have boasted all day long,
And we will give thanks to Your name forever.

14 You make us a byword among the nations,
A laughingstock among the peoples.

17 All this has come upon us, but we have not forgotten You,
And we have not dealt falsely with Your covenant.

18 Our heart has not turned back,
And our steps have not deviated from Your way

24 Why do You hide Your face
And forget our affliction and our oppression?

25 For our soul has sunk down into the dust;
Our body cleaves to the earth.

26 Rise up, be our help,
And redeem us for the sake of Your lovingkindness.

Notice first, David’s Psalm is always regarding himself and his relationship with God. He speaks with the words “I” and “me.” In contrast, the Psalmist in Psalm 44 not only uses “I” and “me”, he also uses “us” and “we.” I point this out as I believe this reveals these Psalms to have application not only on the personal level but also for the church.

Let’s break Psalm 44 down.

Verses 6-8 point out:

  • I don’t trust in myself.
  • You (God) deserve the credit for our salvation.
  • We’re going to boast in You (God).

Verse 14

  • We’re a laughingstock.

Verses 17-18 bring us back to:

  • Covenant
  • God’s path

Verses 24-25 asks:

  • Why? Why do You (God)…
    • Hide Your face?
    • Forget our affliction and oppression?
      • because we sure can’t forget it

Verse 26 cries out:

  • Rise up!
  • Redeem us!
  • Do this because of Your lovingkindness!

From one verse to another, a lot of these words just don’t seem to be in sync with one another when we view it through the lens of contractual obligation.

Isn’t God supposed to smooth things out for us when we trust in Him and when we give Him the glory? If you read this Psalm in its entirety, it even goes much deeper than just having the result of being a laughingstock. Verse 19 says, “Yet You have crushed us in a place of jackals and covered us with the shadow of death.” What’s up with that?

Not to leave you dangling, but let’s see if Psalm 39 can shed some light on this.

Verses 4-5, 7 show a humble servant:

  • Show me how transient I am.
  • My lifetime is nothing in Your sight, God.
  • At my best, I’m a mere breath.
  • My only hope is in You, God.

Not unlike verses 6-8 of Psalm 44.

In verses 8 David pleads:

  • Deliver me!
  • Don’t make me a reproach (laughingstock) of fools!

In verse 11 David reveals:

  • God chastens (corrects) a man for iniquity (sin) by
    • consuming whatever the man holds dear that keeps him from God.
  • A man is just a mere breath.

We may be inclined to look at these two Psalms as having an air of self-pity on the part of the psalmists. David’s Psalm even reveals in verse 10, “because of the opposition of Your hand I am perishing.” Keep the faith. Looking through the lens of contract, these Psalms are heavy-handed and burdensome. But, through the lens of covenant, they’re beautiful. First, let’s see what this looks like in our lives when viewed contractually.

The Lens of Contract: Leveraging God Through Obligation

Unfortunately, one of the typical phases many Christians go through in their walk is that of self-pity. In this phase, the brother or sister points out what they’ve done for Christ, how they’ve sacrificed, and yet, they live in a less than desirable state of existence . . . “but that’s just the Christian life,” they may say. It appears very needy.

In stark contrast, there is another possible phase in where the brother or sister in Christ wants to “out-Christian” everybody else. (Yes, I just used Christian as a verb…. a proper verb no less and thus, it is capitalized. I think it’s going to be a thing.)

In other words, they want everyone to know they, or their church, Christian the right way.

In both of these cases, the believer has positioned himself/herself into a state of isolation. And they’ve done so because they believe in contractual obligation between themselves and God.

With contract, there is much fear and doubt because all contingencies must be met in order to reach the ultimate desired result, salvation. If I do ABC, God is supposed to take care of XYZ.

Understand, there is no unity in fear, doubt, or isolation. Therefore, I ask you, “how can the body be one with Christ if each individual acts out of contractual obligation?”

The Lens of Covenant: The Joy of Relationship

Holding these Psalms up to the lens of covenant reveals the true beauty of both Psalms.

Psalm 44 even states, “we have not forgotten You and we have not dealt falsely with Your covenant.Covenant isn’t obligational, it is relational. Relationship is what we see in the 12th verse of Psalm 39, “For I am a stranger with You, a sojourner like all my fathers.” It is relationship which reveals the true beauty of verse 26 in Psalm 44, “Rise up, be our help, and redeem us for the sake of Your lovingkindness.”

The Psalmist doesn’t say redeem us because of all the things we’ve done for You, God. He says redeem us because You are good and kind. Redeem us because of who You are.

These two psalmists understand their relationship with the Father is not based in any way on their worthiness. They aren’t bemoaning the fact that they are strangers in a strange land where they may or may not fall into sin. In the midst of sorrow, they are rejoicing in His faithfulness and the kindness they experience through relationship with Him.

Isn’t it interesting that David, the man who said, “I will celebrate before the Lord. I’ll be even more undignified than this,” also said, “Make me not the reproach of the foolish”? As we discussed last time, we must see things in their context. When David said, “I’ll be even more undignified than this” he also continued “and will be humble in my own eyes, but with the maids of whom you have spoken, with them I will be distinguished.” (2 Sam 6:22) David’s state of humility was “before the Lord.” It wasn’t before men.

So, What’s the Play Call?

Study and pray.

Submit yourself to God’s Word, and not simply someone else’s rendering of God’s Word.

Invite the Holy Spirit into your study time and ask Him to teach you, guide you, and reveal Himself to be greater than anything He may reveal in you.

Go forth in the knowledge that He is consuming – out of love – all the things you have held as precious in place of Him.

Kick Spiritual Complacency to the Curb and Jump!

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A few weeks ago, I wrote about coming to a crossroad in my walk with God and making a decision to go all the way. I had a burden – God was telling me that I had all the religious activities down, but there was more. I chose to step up my prayer and fasting game big time, and I am a little surprised at what I’ve experienced since then.

You see, one of the funny things about crossroads is that, for a while, you can still see the other route.

There’s still time to turn back. It’s not always hard to go in the right direction, but it’s a challenge to continue in the right direction. Then, you have to determine which is worse: the press it takes to obey the call on your life, or living with the guilt of complacency.

Silly me. I never thought that anything God told me to do would ever make me reluctant or unsure of myself. I thought that my willingness alone to yield to the Holy Spirit would activate supernatural powers.

I don’t know about anyone else, but this hasn’t been my experience. I actually thought all I had to do was say “yes” to God, and He would take over from there. I’m pretty sure I heard that preached before lol.

Under my breath, I say, “Lord I thought it wasn’t me who lived, but You in me (Galatians 2:20)?” Then the Spirit reminds me, “You forgot the beginning of the verse which says you were crucified with Christ”. Then I’m like oh okay, yeah.

Your Yes Requires Action

big stepSo, I gave up hopes of God “taking over” and came to terms with the fact that “yes” wasn’t enough – I had to do the work!

Don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. I don’t do anything in my own strength – I do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13). God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). I just had things a little mixed up.

Remember in 1 Samuel 10:8-9 after Saul was anointed, the Spirit of God came over him and God gave him a new heart? That’s how I imagined this thing going. I thought God would just touch me and I’d literally become everything He wanted me to be. After all, I too have the Spirit of God living in me.

God has shown me that it’s not that easy – we have the authority and we have to use it! This process is teaching me how to tap into the power of God that is in me.

Learning how to cooperate and yield to the Holy Spirit is a must! If you, like me, have been doing things that you were able to do or comfortable in doing, this can be a real challenge. When God tells you to do something outside of that norm, you’re forced to use faith, discipline, and commitment.

Is the Joy Worth the Cost?

Wrestle Not Against Flesh and BloodNow, there’s a war between your flesh and ego against the Spirit. This level of conflict reminds me of what I felt when I was trying to stop fornicating. I know we’re supposed to be moving forward and upward in the things of God, we strive to develop ourselves in Christ – but really, God?

“I just want to do my own thing over here, is that okay? I’ll serve in the church, I’ll give, and I’ll worship –but please let me stay over here in my bubble. Pleeaasse??”

God spoke to me and said, “All those times you asked for wisdom, knowledge, and understanding – did you think it would cost you nothing? Do you think I’d bless you with that and you wouldn’t have to share with my people?” Yep, I sure did ask You, God.

Complacency is an enemy of growth. We can never allow ourselves to think that we’re all together and there’s nothing else to learn, do, or achieve. Even Paul, who was imprisoned for the sake of the gospel says in Philippians 3:13 that he did not consider himself to have “arrived”.

Because of pride, it took me a long time to accept that I will always need more of God. I will never know enough about Him, hear enough of His voice, or have my fill of being in His presence. There is no finish line.

I believe that the closer you get to God, the more He reveals to you what you need to change or let go. I changed my perspective and now I thank God for showing me what I needed deliverance from and how I can grow stronger.

So, What’s The Play Call?

Take stock of your life and evaluate areas of complacency. Ask God to reveal what makes you complacent or why you may settle for mediocrity in your spiritual relationship with Him.

Don’t be too hard on yourself or fall for the deception of guilt! Get to the root of the matter, and kill it with the Word of God. There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ (Romans 8:1).

Do something different! Change up your routine with God and be spontaneous with Him. Talk to Him about any and everything, any and everywhere – but don’t just talk, listen! Allow Him to tell you what you need to do, how you can revamp your business or improve your marriage, or just whatever He wants to say. Maybe God just wants to say, “I love you, my son, my daughter.”

Prepare Him room!

God Bless

#TimesUp! 5 Keys to Heal from #MeToo to God Can Heal #YouToo

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‘For I will restore you to health and I will heal you of your wounds‘, declares the LORD. Jeremiah 30:17

Freedom Begins for #YouToo

There comes a time when every grain of sand hits the bottom of the hourglass signifying “time’s up!”

What many fail to realize, while they’re smack dab in the throes of pain, heartache, depression, or painful memories they can’t seem to shake is this: There’s an appointed hourglass (time) with your pain on it, that signifies when the bondage ends, and your NEW journey to healing begins.

For me, I ran out of time on January 11, 2005.

Right there. A grown woman. Locked in the bathroom, scrunched down on the floor – my spirit AUDIBLY heard God whisper, “It’s time for you to heal.”

At first, I pretended, “Umm, from what?” But deep down inside, I knew exactly what God was talking about.

You see, for 30 years, I’d been trapped in my #MeToo experience – snatched by 2 white teens at knifepoint and molested. What does a 5-year-old girl from the ‘hood do with an experience like that?

Well, this particular 5-year-old girl had severe issues of trust, fear of abandonment, insecurities, people-pleasing, promiscuity, and other issues. But oddly enough, she was able to mask her pain with academic achievement, material success, and a form of got-it-going-on.

But, here’s where God’s nature and His grace come in. God does not subscribe to partial freedom, a form of freedom, nor the look of freedom.  When God sets you free – you are free indeed! (John 8:36)

Healing is Available to #YouToo!

#youtooGod invites you today to heal and break every #MeToo chain that’s holding you back.

Now, be honest. Does that scare you?

Have you been holding on to that painful experience for so long that it’s become a part of you – your personality, your decision-making, your character?

Does the thought of waking up without anger, bitterness, pain seem impossible – or worse yet, like you’d be letting the one(s) off scott-free who hurt you?

Perhaps you’re like me, and you’re reading God His rights (in your head, of course, lol):

But God, I know these chains – we go wayyy back. If I accept your invitation, then I’d have to face what I’ve buried. Do you know, God, how long it took for me to fix my mask juusst right, so that no one could see the damage done to me? Have you any idea, God, the years it took for me to drench myself with fragrant success so no one could smell the stench of those dirty white boys on me? What about my family and friends – what if they don’t believe me, dismiss me, ostracize me? And how long, God, is this ‘healing business’ gonna take? – ain’t nobody got time for this foolishness!”

Fortunately, after clinical depression and failed suicide plans – I finally came to my senses and was able to waive the white flag. It was (way past) time.

Surrender Your Healing to God’s Loving Hands

#youtoo

While I’ll be the first one to admit that healing takes work, commitment, and consistency (4 years for me) – I can tell you straight up that not one day of the journey was spent without God’s consistent love and care.

Let’s keep this healing thing real – it may not be a bed of roses, you may encounter regret that you even said “OK, God, let’s do it.’ But, I guarantee you if you stick with God and surrender every emotion, memory, pain, nightmare, tear to Him – He will deliver on His promise to heal you!

Accept God’s Invitation to the #YouToo Club

If you’re ready to heal, or if you need a little help to accept God’s whosoever will invitation for healing from #MeToo, give this a try:

1. Acknowledge That You’re Sick.

No one will ever seek a physician until they’re able to admit that they’re sick. Be honest with yourself and don’t hide behind “I’m over it, that was in the past, it doesn’t bother me anymore…”  Healing begins with truth. And, as long as we feed off the lies we tell ourselves, we will always live a mal-nourished, anorexic life with no real substance. God has greater plans for you than that (Jeremiah 29:11).

Note: If you’re reading this and have not accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, pray a personal prayer of salvation (see example at the end) and connect with a Bible-believing fellowship to strengthen your new life in Christ!

2. Know the Source of Your Complete Healing is God.

Begin your healing journey with the WIN in mind. But, not just the win – but the source of your triumph – God. It is God who will cause you to triumph on this road to freedom – not by your own might, power, or strength (2 Corinthians 2:14, Zechariah 4:6). When your focus is on God, with His voice leading the way – the distracting winds and waves will not drown you while you’re en route to your freedom.

3. Find a Prayerful Support Partner

You may begin your journey with just you and Jesus – for privacy concerns or personal choice. However, as you press towards the mark of healing and freedom, consider a praying sister or brother in Christ to cover you in prayer. You don’t have to tell him or her everything (and if they require full disclosure, they’re not the one), but to be able to drop a hint to someone who responds, “Don’t worry sister/brother – I got you!” is tremendously helpful on your worse (or even best) days.

4. Consider Help from a Counselor.

Depending on the person, your healing journey will likely call for some reinforcement. I highly recommend Christ-centered counseling. Though some in the “church” may feel that all you need to do is “pray the pain away”, that may not be the solution for everyone.

There’s no guilt or shame in taking Jesus AND your prayers to counseling with you. Before searching or settling on a mental health professional, ask God to guide you to the right person who not only has the training and certifications – but also the temperament, personality, and style that you’d be comfortable with.

5. Know that Only Good Comes from Healing

I get it. No one likes the process of having a bad tooth pulled – but after that rotten tooth is gone, hallelujah!

So, whatever the language of your #MeToo – healing from rape, incest, molestation, improper touching, sexual assault, inappropriate sexual behavior – know that only good will come from your healing journey. The freedom is worth the process. Sure, you may have no experience with this freedom yet, you may have no idea of the magnitude of its impact on you, but trust that God will not disappoint you. It’s so worth it.

So, What’s the Play Call?

With every stripe borne by Jesus Christ, you are healed (Isaiah 53:5).

Yes, it is amazing that so many women and men have come forward and acknowledge their #Metoo experience. In the body of Christ, on Team Jesus, that’s gratefully not where the story ends. Every person who has a #MeToo testimony can also experience the testimony of a loving God who heals and restores all through His Son, Jesus Christ.

Team, God is calling us higher, and we can’t go higher, achieve more, walk in purpose, execute God’s vision – if we are bogged down with pain, depression, and hopelessness. Rejecting God’s invitation to healing only serves the enemy – because he knows you’ll never be as great a threat to him while in bondage. So, pursue your freedom!

The number “1” is the number of beginnings. I pray you’ll find the strength and courage to realize your own January 11 (1/11) – where you begin the process of healing, and eventually reach the finish line to tell others that #YouToo can heal from your #MeToo experience.

Come forth, daughter! Come forth, son! It’s time for you to heal.

Pursue It: Being Ready When God Says “Go!”

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David inquired of the LORD: “Shall I pursue this raiding party? Will I overtake them?” The LORD told David, “Pursue them! You will definitely overtake them and rescue the captives.” 1 Samuel 30:8

Starting a marriage is like starting a business. They’re both packed with learning curves and often require large startup costs. You enter each with passions and positivity in full view. They both require intense amounts of effort, and as children of God, each requires security in Him.

Erik and Emily had just returned to Oklahoma from an incredible honeymoon in the Dominican Republic. Stepping into their new home together as Mr. and Mrs. Richison, excitement filled their minds as they anticipated the thrill of what lay ahead. Experimenting in the kitchen, paying utility bills, and brightening mundane Mondays together.

The first weekday brought with it an opportunity for weakness as Emily received a call from a potential employer informing her that the role she thought was a perfect fit was offered to another candidate. Though disappointment felt natural, Emily shrugged it off in confidence, “Well, God must have something else.”

The next day, Erik was laid off from his job.

He told his wife that night and she reminded him of the lyrics to their first dance song:

“Life could get hard
I could lose my job
Safety isn’t promised to me.”

They laughed at how words from a song they danced to ten days earlier could reflect reality so clearly. In their hearts, they knew God was orchestrating a piece of their lives in detail designed to glorify Him, and they found comfort in that.

Although the search for a practical replacement job came to mind, the name of the dream business they sketched out months before stood firm: Willow. The wedding videography company had been a romantic idea they imagined for the distant future.

With Emily’s experience in photography and Erik’s marketing skills, it would mean dream careers for each of them, after years of saving, of course. But God was calling for them to abandon all other forms of security and trust solely in Him.

On July 26, 2017, with less than two months of marriage under their belts, the Richisons launched Willow Narrative.

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Willow…because just as willow trees need to be near a water source in order to grow and truly flourish, we need to be rooted in Christ.”

Emily’s sentiment carries weight, not only in their personal life but in business as well. This couple is bold about sharing God’s love with their clients. They offer the gifts God gave them back to Him.

Willow is God’s business. We are just the ones running it,” says Erik.

He and Emily find themselves continuously being tested to trust God and rest in Him. It’s a privilege that comes with being His children, and a lesson, as humans, we never stop learning.

Since starting their business, they’ve discovered the importance of community, linking up with other entrepreneurs and small shops in their area.

“We know we’re not the only ones doing this,” says Emily. “We’re not the only crazy ones.”

And, they make it a goal to enjoy the beautiful weddings they shoot by dancing to a few songs during each reception.

The Richisons are in the midst of a beautiful testimony. My hope in sharing their story is for you to be encouraged and filled with wisdom in your own new season. Whether it’s marriage or business or furthering your education, pursue Christ first. Trust in Him, find community, and enjoy the process (with a dance, perhaps).

For I will pour water on the thirsty land, and streams on the dry ground; I will pour my Spirit upon your offspring, and my blessing on your descendants. They shall spring up among the grass like willows by flowing streams. Isaiah 44:4-5

 

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