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Train Up a Child: Team Jesus Locker Room Chat with Momager, Dannella Lane

Welcome to Our New Column, Train Up a Child

Teammates! Christian parents are asking more often, “How in the world do you raise God-fearing kids in today’s society?”

Well, today begins the official launch of our newest column, “Train Up a Child“, where we hope to answer this question and equip Christian parents with biblical, practical, relevant, and action-based guidance to help you on your parenting journey.

Make Jesus Famous: A Family Affair with Dannella Lane

We’re excited to kick things off with Momager extraordinaire, Dannella Lane, Mom x 4 and Brand Manager of Dani and Dannah, her two viral child stars who rep Team Jesus in everything they do! Listen in as she shares her parenting experience and nuggets of wisdom!

And, don’t forget to follow Dani and Dannah EVERYWHERE for Scripture Timeeeee and check out their Call Jesus video!

 


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Pursuing Purpose: Lakeisha Dixon, The Breakthrough Strategist

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Pursuing Purpose Interview Series

Special Guest: Lakeisha Q. Dixon, Certified Life Coach and Founder of Breakthrough Coaching & Leadership Academy (BCLA)

“Pursuing Purpose” is a new podcast interview series with people who are walking in purpose and destined for greatness. These persons come from all backgrounds of life; many are well-known and well-respected professionals in their respective industries. Some are household names, and others are not. But, what they all have in common is their faith in God. They are all Team Jesus! As Christ Followers, they have endured and overcome challenges and have made the commitment to dedicate their lives to walking in and living out their God-given purpose, no matter what.

Meet Lakeisha Dixon, Minister and Certified Professional Life Coach who goes by the name, The Breakthrough Strategist. Lakeisha specializes in coaching individuals, businesses, and organizations on how to strategically breakthrough life’s barriers professionally, personally, spiritually, and financially. She has a yoke destroying anointing that has been birthed through intense adversity in her own life. Lakeisha is a witness that God is able to help you overcome life’s challenges and press toward your purpose.

Let’s listen in to her personal testimony of breakthrough to find her God-given purpose.


 

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David and Tamela Mann Drop First Joint Album “Us Against the World: The Love Project”

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david and tamela mannGood Love Lasts

Two-time NAACP Image Award-Winning Actor and Comedian David Mann and his wife, Grammy® Award-Winning, NAACP Image-Award Winning Actress Tamela Mann, are celebrating their 30-year love story with the release of their first joint album, Us Against The World: The Love Project (Tillymann Music/Orchard/Sony) today, November 9, 2018.

Inspired by David and Tamela’s new memoir, Us Against the World: Our Secrets to Love, Marriage, and Family (November 13), this soulful 10-song musical collaboration about resilient and enduring love is brimming with the couple’s vocal chemistry. The project is produced by David, Tamela and their son David Mann Jr. The Us Against the World album is a candidly honest chronicle of defining moments in David and Tamela’s relationship. The two recreate an epic revelation from early on in their marriage that could have undone them on the heart-wrenching yet resolutely hopeful track by David, “I Love You.” On “Mason Jar” Tamela’s tender vocals pay tribute to her grandmother, mother and love of her life, David. The first single, now impacting Urban AC radio, is “Good Love,” a timeless romantic duet in the vein of a Motown classic featuring David and Tamela’s soulfully smooth harmonies. The album reconstructs other ‘big reveals’ in the couple’s relationship, ultimately leading to “Signs,” a love letter to each other.

“We made Us Against the World because we want people to be uplifted, spiritually encouraged, and feel hopeful about love, life, relationships, and family,” said David Mann. “This is our first joint project and it’s been a dream come true to record together. We hope these songs will inspire a renewed commitment to marriage and family,” said Tamela Mann.

Track List
Us Against the World | David & Tamela
Mason Jar | Tamela
I Love You | David
Still Do | David
Good Love | David & Tamela
You | David & Tamela
Feels Like | Tamela
Ups and Downs | David & Tamela
Making Up | David & Tamela
Signs | David & Tamela

The couple’s new memoir, Us Against the World: Our Secrets to Love, Marriage, and Family (W Publishing/Harper Collins Christian), will be available this Tuesday, November 13. With a relationship spanning more than 30 years, David and Tamela are just as, if not more than, happily in love as they were in the early days of life together. In their new book the superstar couple who has delighted and inspired audiences through music, plays, movies, and the television series’ Meet the Browns, The Manns, and Mann & Wife, candidly share a wonderfully inspiring, funny, and up-close look at their lives while offering hope and practical advice for building a strong relationship, marriage and family.

Highlights of the Us Against the World book include:
• Tips to help couples grow in love and commitment to each other.
• No holds-barred honesty about how to experience true unity, intimacy, and fulfillment in marriage.
• Insight into how two successful people built careers and a family together.
• Encouragement that though blending a family has challenges, it is definitely possible.

For the latest updates on David and Tamela visit:
WEBSITE: www.tillymannmusic.com
FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/davidtamelamann
INSTAGRAM: @DavidandTamela
TWITTER: @DavidandTamela
MUSIC STREAM: http://www.tillymannmusic.com/love-project-snippets.html

ABOUT DAVID MANN
Ingeniously funny and extraordinarily talented are understatements when it comes to David Mann, the multi-faceted, two-time NAACP Award-winning actor and comedian. A native of Texas, David masterfully showcases his God-given talents in a most dynamic and distinguished way. His musical and theatrical talents brilliantly epitomize ingenuity at its best. Along with his wife, Gospel singing sensation Tamela Mann, David co-stars in the hilarious TV comedy, Mann & Wife, and their family docu-series, The Manns. When David is not on set shooting, producing or directing, he brings his live comedy show to venues around the country playing to capacity crowds. David, together with Tamela, head up their independent entertainment company Tillymann Music Group.

ABOUT TAMELA MANN
Tamela Mann is a Grammy® Award winner, three-time NAACP Image Award® winner, BET Award winner, Billboard Music Award winner, Stellar Gospel Music Award winner, and GMA Dove Award-winning singer, actress, songwriter, producer, and businesswoman. Tamela’s award-winning album Best Days debuted at No. 1 on multiple Billboard music sales charts and includes the No. 1 RIAA-Platinum certified single “Take Me to The King.” Tamela set a historic personal and industry record as the first Gospel lead artist in Billboard Gospel radio chart history to score three consecutive No. 1’s from an album. The string of hits includes “Take Me to The King,” “I Can Only Imagine,” and “This Place.” Tamela’s Billboard chart-topping fourth solo studio album One Way features the Billboard No.1 singles “God Provides” and “Change Me.” In 2017 Tamela broke the record for the most No. 1’s in the history of Billboard’s Gospel Airplay chart when “Change Me” became her sixth leader. Tamela co-stars with husband actor/comedian David in the hilarious TV comedy, Mann & Wife, and their family docu-series, The Manns. Together, the couple heads up their independent entertainment company Tillymann Music Group.

5 Keys to Finding Your Authentic Self in Jesus Christ

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An “In” Crowd of One

Have you ever been watching a TV show or movie and it triggered something about yourself? For me, it was the movie Mean Girls. Maybe you haven’t seen it. It’s about this group of girls that everyone in the school envies, with the exception of a few. Girls who treat everyone, including each other, kinda terribly; it’s a little extreme. They all live for keeping secrets and trying to live up to the expectations of others.

And no, I didn’t hang with the mean girls back in high school. Neither do I have to think back that far to when I tried to “be myself” and failed under pressure.

By failed, I mean that others in my so-called “circle” didn’t approve of me, and I decided that I would rather conform to what they wanted. I longed to be part of the “it” group, and I’m not talking about when I was a youngster. As an adult, I can now admit that I wanted to be somebody other than who God created me to be.

When God Reveals Who You Are, Embrace It

authentic selfNothing to be proud of, but I’m done being ashamed of it. I’ve even learned that there are times when we, as adults, think that we’re beyond certain things because we are grown. Nope, not so.

Learning to love who you are called to be is a process, even as you get older. We spend so much time teaching our children to be different, and that they don’t need to worry about what others think of them. But way too often, we forget or neglect to take our own advice.

How often do we try to be “original” in this world of fakes, followers, and false friends? How often do we retreat back into our shells when it doesn’t seem to work out for us?

Way too often.

There are times when I can look back and recall doing more of what was preferred by others, than what I know was required of my character. As a “grown-up”, I was still trying to figure out who I was, because for so long I ignored the voice of God calling me out. Christ came so that we could follow Him, not those we are surrounded by.

So often, we lose who we are because we want to be one of the “birds”… you know how the saying goes, “birds of a feather flock together.” God created us as individuals. His plan was so intricate that there is no one else with your exact DNA – not even if you have a twin. No matter how identical, your fingerprints are different, your dental records are your own, and your desires and dreams may be worlds apart.

So, What’s the Play Call?

We each have our own identity and it is only found in Christ Jesus. Many times, we talk ourselves out of being who we know we should be, for fear of what others think and how they may react. Here are a few things that I hope will help you embrace your individuality:

  1. God knew who you’d be before you became. So, there is no reason to try to hide from yourself or Him. “Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee, and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5
  2. You were created to look like Him, not them. Our Playbook says in Genesis 1:27, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”
  3. If God meant for you to be like everybody else, He would have made you that way. He didn’t – so be you. “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2
  4. There are some crowds you must step away from. “Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,” 2 Corinthians 6:17
  5. God loves you. “The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.” Jeremiah 21:3

God has so much for you, but it is for the authentic you – not who you have learned to be. Seek Him for your true identity. I’m rooting for you and pray you will begin to live out your God-given identity and potential.

Bless the Lord: How Your Soul Glorifies God

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Today’s Scripture Lesson: Psalm 103

I’m going to depart from my typical format today. Instead of asking you to open your Bible today and read it, I’m going to present the full Psalm in two parts. While I will offer my own brief commentary on each part, I do encourage you to ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to see the truth in His word and allow Him to be your teacher and minister.

Psalm 103:1 – 5 (NASB)

Bless the LORD, O my soul,
And all that is within me, bless His holy name.

Bless the LORD, O my soul,
And forget none of His benefits;

Who pardons all your iniquities,
Who heals all your diseases;

Who redeems your life from the pit,
Who crowns you with lovingkindness and compassion;

Who satisfies your years with good things,
So that your youth is renewed like the eagle.

guard your thoughts

Please re-read those 5 verses, but do so with this simple understanding: David is literally speaking in the 3rd person to his very soul, reminding his soul to speak truth regarding the Lord God.

Consider this. We all have an ongoing inner dialogue. So much of what we say is often a dialogue speaking about our situation, our condition, our faith, our relationships, our pain, our self-pity, our pride. I suppose you could easily add to this list. I know I certainly can.

Upon whom does your inner dialogue most often focus? How’s that working out for you?

Sorry to throw that last question in, but it was the question the Holy Spirit asked me and I thought maybe, for someone else who may be reading this, it might be relevant as well. Do you see the hopefulness in that which David is asking his own soul to set his focus? I’ll start you out…verse 3 says pardon and healing. What else do you see?

Let’s move on.

Psalm 103:6 – 22 (NASB)

The LORD performs righteous deeds
And judgments for all who are oppressed.

He made known His ways to Moses,
His acts to the sons of Israel.

The LORD is compassionate and gracious,
Slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness.

He will not always strive with us,
Nor will He keep His anger forever.

He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor rewarded us according to our iniquities.

For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
So great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him.

As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.

 Just as a father has compassion on his children,
So the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.

For He Himself knows our frame;
He is mindful that we are but dust.

As for man, his days are like grass;
As a flower of the field, so he flourishes.

When the wind has passed over it, it is no more,
And its place acknowledges it no longer.

But the lovingkindness of the LORD is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear Him,
And His righteousness to children’s children,

To those who keep His covenant
And remember His precepts to do them.

The LORD has established His throne in the heavens,
And His sovereignty rules over all.

Bless the LORD, you His angels,
Mighty in strength, who perform His word,
Obeying the voice of His word!

Bless the LORD, all you His hosts,
You who serve Him, doing His will.

Bless the LORD, all you works of His,
In all places of His dominion;
Bless the LORD, O my soul!

And so, David’s soul blesses the Lord. How?

He just begins focusing on and speaking truth about his Creator. He speaks beautiful truths revealing God’s righteousness, God’s justice, God’s mercy and compassion, God’s grace, God’s steadfast love, and that God’s anger goes away. Then in verses 10 – 12, we read this incredible revelation,

He has not dealt with us according to our sins, nor rewarded us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him. As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.”

Next, he reveals God as a “father.” Not only does he reveal God as a father, but regardless of the kind of earthly father any of us have had, he reveals God is a compassionate father  (v 13).

David goes on to reveal God knows our very frame. I take that two ways; God literally knows our skeletal structure, and God knows the framework of our lives and every experience which has brought us where we are in our lives at any given moment.

So, What’s the Play Call?

David reveals great wisdom in this Psalm, showing us the beauty in speaking the truth about God. We cannot speak truth about God without bringing Him glory.

I didn’t do all the work for you. Continue writing down all the revelations you see about God in the remainder of this Psalm. For more revelation, turn to the 104th Psalm. It is a continuation of the 103rd, even beginning with “Bless the Lord, O my soul.”

Prepare Yourself Now for What’s to Come Next

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Time Waits For No One

A typical phrase, right?  And, it’s very true.  November is here and we are on the heels of crossing over into 2019. Are you ready? Are you prepared?

Preparation is the one thing that qualifies you for what’s to come. It is defined as the action or process of making ready or being made ready for use or consideration.  Preparation is God’s idea of us showing Him that we are ready for His promises. It’s not always easy, but it is a major step and it’s necessary.

Consider this for a moment:  God says in Genesis 6 that He is going to flood the earth, and He gives Noah the key to surviving the flood which is to build an ark. The building of the ark is Noah’s preparation for the flood. This will sustain Noah and his family.

The question I’d like for you to consider is what if Noah ignored God’s instruction to build the ark?

The instruction given to Noah would not only protect him and his family from drowning in the flood, but this is the portal to keeping covenant with God.  Think about this for a moment. God wants to start something new on the earth and His desire is to do it with you!  What feelings do you think God would have toward Noah if he ignored His instruction, which would break their covenant?

The God Idea

prepare yourselfThe storyline of Noah and the ark is all about preparation for a God Idea.

Many of us have God Ideas, but we find ourselves frustrated because of the lack of preparation. To stick with the storyline, our frustration is an indication that we are drowning in the Idea because of our failure to prepare and build.

When a mother carries a child for 9 months, there is something that most mothers have which is called a baby shower.  This baby shower is the very thing that prepares the family, mother, and child for the God Idea of “be fruitful and multiply”.

Twenty-nineteen is going to be a year of birthing for many of us, but it will only happen to the prepared. Vision and purpose will not be birthed in this season to those who are not willing to build an ark.

So, what’s the play call?

It’s time to build, it’s time to work (John 9:4)!  Gather your ideas and start to look at them from the end to the beginning. Yep, I said it just like that because the only way to produce a God Idea is to look at it backward. See it complete in God and then prayerfully strategize on how you will bring it to fruition.

Preparation is the key. Let’s build an Ark!

GRAMMY® Nominated Hillsong Young & Free Releases First-Ever LIVE Arena Recording

Team! Experience GRAMMY® nominated Hillsong Young & Free’s brand new album “III (Live at Hillsong Conference)” recorded in Sydney, Australia; the home of the youth worship team from Hillsong Church.

Featuring 14 new live versions of songs from their recently released studio album “III” and bonus tracks “Wake” and “Sinking Deep”, listeners will experience Y&F’s signature blend of pop and EDM influences with powerful worship anthems in their first-ever live arena recording.

The album also features guest appearances from Brooke Ligertwood (Hillsong Worship), Joel Houston (Hillsong UNITED), and a special version of “Heart of God” featuring Chris Tomlin.

TRACK LISTING

01. SELAH III (Fruits of the Spirit)
02. Let Go
03. Wake
04. Hindsight
05. Every Little Thing
06. Jesus Loves Me
07. Highs & Lows (feat. Joel Houston)
08. P E A C E
09. Days Gone By
10. Push/Pull (feat. Brooke Ligertwood)
11. How Deep Is The Love
12. Sinking Deep
13. First Love
14. Heart Of God (feat. Chris Tomlin)
15. Just Jesus
16. Love Won’t Let Me Down

Check out the Live CD/DVD here.

Learn More About Hillsong Young & Free

GRAMMY® nominated Hillsong Young & Free is a youth movement born out of Hillsong Church in Sydney, Australia. In this 30-year story, they have seen generations of people serving, leading and pioneering movements. Young & Free is comprised of a collective of young people who come together to make music for youth and young adults everywhere. Their first album “We Are Young & Free” (2013) and EP, “This Is Living” (2015), garnered a No. 1 spot on Billboard Top Christian /Gospel Albums Chart. Their latest project, “Youth Revival” (2016) spawned multiple No. 1’s, landed in the Top 10 on Billboard’s Digital Albums Chart, and garnered the band its first GRAMMY® nomination. Recent singles “P E A C E” and “Love Won’t Let Me Down” received positioning on Spotify’s New Music Friday playlist reaching over 2.4M followers and “Love Won’t Let Me Down” hit #1 at Hot A/C. With millions of followers engaging in the social conversation and support from the most prominent music outlets around the world, Young & Free has scored five No. 1 radio singles and eight Top 5 singles at Hot AC radio.

Revenge for What? God Will Fight for You

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When Offense Strikes, Revenge Draws Nigh

When a bad situation arises or someone does you wrong, typically the first thing we want to do is fight for ourselves. Most of us waste no time jumping in the boxing ring of life in order to throw back some blows.

Think about it, most bullies today hide behind their computer keyboard. You may state an opinion or even a fact, and because a person may not agree with your stance, they are ready and willing to attack with their responses. How many of us attack back? Do you feel the need to put the person in their place and let them know that you’re not willing to accept their bullying keyboard behavior?

Most of us do indeed fight back! The offensive message bubbles over in us and we have to address what was said.

You Hurt Me.

revengeOn the other hand, there are moments in life when we feel betrayed or done wrong by those we love. What do you do when someone close to you offends you? Is it ok to fight back?

We live in a world today where most are fighting back, and we are not holding our peace nor turning the other cheek.

Have you ever considered that there is no need for revenge? Our Playbook lets us know that God will fight for us (Exodus 14:14). He will fight for us only if we are willing to allow Him to do so. Allowing God to fight for you may appear to others as if you’re losing by not fighting back, but I’ve never seen God lose a battle yet!

We serve the all-knowing, all-powerful, winning Savior! You are more than a conqueror through Christ, but you must be willing to humble yourself and trust that the Creator knows more than the created.

So, what’s the play call?

  • There is no need for revenge. Chill. Please get out of the way of God’s work and His timing. He is well able to take care of a situation far better than you! Are you willing to trust Him?

I will take revenge; I will pay them back. In due time their feet will slip. Their day of disaster will arrive, and their destiny will overtake them.” Deuteronomy 32:35 NLT

  • Pray for anyone who uses you. Yes, that’s what I said, pray sincerely and earnestly for those who knowingly take the time to use you for their own benefit. Today, we call them “opportunists.” Pray for people who have no depth, and known ill intent. Even in knowing there is a hidden agenda, continue to pray for them! Who better to deal with a wicked heart than God? He can transform any life – He transformed yours!

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.” Matthew 5:44 KJV

  • Don’t use your success as a weapon. There is a quote that many people who are hurting use, “the best revenge is your success.” Honestly, if you’re driven to be successful just to show off to your enemies, you’re only displaying the bitterness that exists in your heart. Let your intentions and your success be clear of vengeance. Reach for and obtain success because that’s a part of your inheritance package as a King’s kid – not because you want others to “see” how you “made it” without them.
  • Love is always the order of the day. Love covers. Love is that warm blanket fresh out of the dryer after being outside on a cold wintery day. Love reassures you, love affirms you, love blankets itself around you and covers you. If you’re at a lost on what to do or how to treat someone who has clearly and blatantly done you wrong, love them! Love changes everything.

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” I Peter 4:8 NIV

Teammates, your will to please God should always outweigh your will to please the world. Let’s all become better, together.

Much Love.

Abundance from the Good Shepherd

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The Lord is my Good Shepherd, I Shall Not Want!

good shepherdThink about that statement. It is boldly stated with confidence and assurance.  There is no worry in the words that have been stated, neither is there any doubt.  It is what it is and if you can say the Lord is your Good Shepherd, you too can boldly say, “I shall not want!

Think about the responsibilities of a shepherd.  In the stories I have read, they guide, lead, protect, and feed the sheep.  Even when it’s time to trim their coats, the shepherd makes sure the sheep are not harmed in the process.

A few characteristics of shepherds are loving, kind and caring; the Bible even gives an illustration of this in Matthew 18:12-13.  It states, “if a man has a hundred sheep and one of them wanders away, what will he do?  Won’t he leave the ninety-nine others on the hills and go out to search for the one that is lost?  And if he finds it, I tell you the truth, he will rejoice over it more than over the ninety-nine that didn’t wander away.”  

That’s the love of the Good Shepherd!

He Maketh Me to Lie Down in Green Pastures

He leadeth me beside the still waters.  He restoreth my soul: He leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.  I was taught that when you see the “eth” on the end of words like maketh, leadeth, restoreth, it means to continue.  This means it will never stop.

God is continuously making me lie down in green pastures, continuously leading me beside still waters, and continuously restoring my soul.  The soul is our mind, our will and our emotions, and it is continuously being restored for His namesake.   If we would just renew our mind, like the play call in Romans 12:2, He will restore it and once our mind is restored, our will and emotions line up to His will.  What a great promise!  God cares about every part of us!

I Don’t Fear the Valley of the Shadow of Death

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.  God has not given us the Spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).  

God has a perfect plan for the lives of believers and we get to participate in it.

The Shepherd Preparest a Table Before Me

…in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.  The table is set, Team, are you ready to eat?

Imagine living the type of life where you are getting better and better, every day in every way and it shows.  Imagine reading scriptures like those presented in this article and believing and acting on them (James 2:18); oh, my goodness, the possibilities!

Imagine living a life with no fear.  The Bible says in 1 John 4:18, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear; because fear hath torment.  He that feareth is not made perfect in love.”  Fear is no match for the power, love, and sound (renewed and restored) mind that God gives.

Goodness and Mercy Follows Me

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. This is my confession, not only today, but every day.

SO, WHAT’S THE PLAY CALL?

The table is set, come eat!

Will you receive the Word of God in this season of your life?  Will you prepare to eat at the table that is already set for you?  Remember God is love, and He is perfect and as scripture tells us – perfect love casts out all fear.

Are you willing to read the Holy Bible and learn more about God?  There is a fantastic abundant life with your name on it (John 10:10), will you receive it?

Domestic Violence Awareness: A Time to Leave

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Photo by Sydney Sims

As Domestic Violence Awareness month closes, I wanted to write a special message to all of the people who tell victims of abuse to stay in the abusive relationship and work things out. My message to you is: Everything has a time limit.

A Time to Flee and Avoid Danger

Let’s take a look at Acts 19.  In this chapter, Paul arrives in Ephesus and begins to teach in the synagogue. Acts 19:8-10 (MSG) says, “Paul then went straight to the meeting place.  He had the run of the place for three months, doing his best to make the things of the kingdom of God real and convincing to them. But then resistance began to form as some of them began spreading evil rumors through the congregation about the Christian way of life.  So Paul left, taking the disciples with him…”  Take a look at the cause and effect that took place here.  Cause:  Resistance formed and evil rumors spread.  Effect: Paul left with the disciples.  Paul tried his best to reveal the true and living God and the hope that we have in Jesus, but not everyone was convinced.  But instead of just leaving peacefully and allowing those who did believe to learn about Christianity, some people chose to turn the synagogue into a hostile environment. Instead of sticking around for things to turn ugly, Paul left and started to teach elsewhere. 

Let me give you another example from the Old Testament.  In Exodus 1, we find out that the king of Egypt became scared that the Israelites would eventually overpower the Egyptians because of how numerous they had become. So, the king decided to enslave the Israelites.  The Egyptians made the Israelites’ “lives bitter with harsh labor in brick and mortar and with all kinds of work in the fields; in all their harsh labor the Egyptians worked them ruthlessly” (Exodus 1:14 NIV).  The king even ordered the Israelite’s newborn baby boys to be killed at birth.  The Israelites endured slavery for many years until God called Moses to deliver them out of Egypt. 

Domestic Violence is a Trap of the Enemy

As a domestic violence advocate, here’s what I know: 

Abusers want to have power and control over their spouses. 

domestic violenceThey want to control their spouse to the point that their spouses are afraid to make a move without their approval.  The abuser’s desire for power and control can become dangerous, and many times, fatal.  Abuse doesn’t always leave visible scars that heal with time.  Most victims have the hardest time healing from the psychological, emotional, and verbal scars that they cannot seem to erase. 

Abuse is real and it happens in way more households than what’s reported.  Victims of abuse have different levels of tolerance for abuse, so some will immediately leave, some will leave after many years, and some may never leave. 

Team, it is not up to us to judge the victim, it is up to us to assist the victim.

I also know that God does not expect us to stay in situations that have the ability to become abusive or violent, nor does He expect us to stay after it has become abusive or violent.  God wants us to value ourselves and our wellbeing enough to leave. 

The reason I chose those two examples is that they are completely different.  Paul left in Acts 19 before things became violent and he became a victim.  In Exodus, the Israelites were enslaved for so many years that they became used to the abuse and God had to intervene. These are the types of cases I see in my work as an advocate at a domestic violence shelter on the regular.  Some women leave before things escalate and some women come to us after decades of abuse.

So, What’s the Play Call?

No matter where a victim of abuse is on her (or his) journey to leaving an abusive relationship, it is a God-given right to leave; no one, especially not a Christian, should cast guilt on someone for making personal safety a priority. 

As a matter of fact, her community should support her and help her escape to safety like the believers in Thessalonica did for Paul, when some of the Jews formed a mob to hunt down Paul and Silas in Acts 17.  The mob broke into the house of a friend of Paul and Silas, and when the mob could not find them, they dragged the friends out of the home to go before the city officials.  “That night, under cover of darkness, their friends got Paul and Silas out of town as fast as they could” (Acts 17:10 MSG). Paul and Silas had some great friends who valued their lives. Believers should do the same for anyone who is trying to escape abuse.

If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1.800.799.7233 or visit www.thehotline.org.

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