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Marriage 101: Lessons in Growth as Taught by Nature

The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green…” (Psalm 92: 12 – 14).

This is the promise of God to all who seek Him. In marriage, the same principles are true. When we put God first and make Him the center of our lives, our marriages will prosper and flourish, remaining fresh even as we mature.

Grow Together – Not Apart

marriageGrowth is at the heart of any lasting relationship. In marriage, two people need to grow together – in the same direction – if we are to bloom and build a happy life as one.

Growth cannot happen in isolation. If I am more focused on my own needs and desires – building my own empire in separation of my spouse – then I may find that, down the road, I have completely disconnected from my partner. Instead of building a life together, we may fall into the trap of living from a place of selfish ambition. This can lead to a very lonely road that may very well end in divorce.

In marriage, there is no room for selfish desires. In fact, the Bible clearly states that when two are joined together in marriage, we become one flesh, and should operate as such. Forsaking our own desires, we need to work together for the benefit of both – and the success of the marriage.

In nature, there are key environmental factors that must be present for optimal growth. For a seedling to flourish, it requires good soil, sunlight, water and maintenance to thrive. In our marriages, we too need to take the time to nurture and maintain our bond in order to achieve success.

So, What’s the Play Call?

Here’s how the very principles of nature can apply in our marriages and help us grow together…

Good soil

good soilIn nature, good soil protects plants from erosion and provides all the minerals and nutrients it needs to grow strong and healthy roots. Without good soil, we will fail to thrive.

Our marriages too should be rooted within a solid foundation of faith and the Word of God. This provides the good soil from which we can grow together. If we are rooted in the Word of God, we will have all we need to mature in our marriages and flourish.

Consider the soil of your heart today. Are you rooted in a soil of faith and the Father’s love?

Sunlight

love covers a multitude of sinsSunlight is the ultimate source of energy which allows plants to grow. In our Christian walk, Christ is the supreme source of power and the only way for us to reconnect to the Father. When we commune with Jesus, the ‘Sun’ who promises us hope, freedom and eternal life, we give our marriages the best opportunity to grow and thrive.

Do you and your spouse need to reconnect to the saving power of the Cross today?

Water

fearAs water is essential for physical life and growth on earth, so, too, is it key to the spiritual growth we experience in Christ. Jesus said, “But those who drink the water I give will never be thirsty again. It becomes a fresh, bubbling spring within them, giving them eternal life,” (John 4:14). Together in marriage, we need to immerse ourselves in the Father’s love and drink from the living waters Jesus provides. This ensures refreshment for our souls and life-giving power in our homes and in our marriages.

Has your marriage become dry and barren? Drink from the living waters of Christ and become renewed and green once more.

Maintenance

one plants one watersThe good farmer prunes his plants to help them grow and bear good fruit. It is the physical act of cutting back branches to help the direction of growth in our plants. In the same way, our good Father in Heaven will prune and cut away those areas in our lives that hinder us from bearing good fruit.

In marriage, we may need to address those things that hold us back. We may need to cut off unhealthy habits in order to build new godly ones. We will need to work together to maintain our growth and remain fresh and green, even as we mature.

Have you allowed weeds to take root in your marriage? Are there things you need to cut away in order to salvage your relationship?

Ask God to reveal these things to you today so that you can maintain growth and blossom in your marriage.

Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate,” (Mark 10:9).

The Mountain Moving Prayer Of A Righteous Man

Prayer Of A Righteous Man

Do you Pray to God with Expectation?

prepare for what we pray forWhen you pray, do you speak in a way that shows your belief in His power and might?

There was a man by the name of George Muller. George prayed over $7,000,000 into his orphanage to feed and care for destitute children over the span of his life.

I have studied George’s journals and his life’s work for quite some time. Do you know what I noticed? His meditation on God’s Word and how He approached God in prayer.

A Faith-filled Prayer Life

I am in awe of this man’s prayer life. Honestly, I cried out to God this morning asking for this man’s faith. I was again committing to God’s Word as the only means for promise in this world.

I was reminded that this is not my life but God’s. It is refreshing to know that when I pray according to His word, His promises come true every single time. George had faith in something so simple. George had faith in the very Words of God. He took it literally and believed God heard him when he cried out to Him.

What’s going on in your life that makes you doubt God’s ability or plan for you? Whatever it is, remember His promise in Psalm 40.

God promises us that he will set us back on solid ground and that people will fear Him and trust Him because of the new song He will put in our mouth!

I think it is important to remember just how blessed we are to have the opportunity for freedom today. Freedom from sin and freedom from oppression is what Jesus gives us.

To have faith like Mr. Muller. To be a man so hinged on God’s promises that he would be forever faithful in trusting and crying out to God.

Teammates, I pray that I can be that man – and I pray that you can be that man. It all starts with doing what George did. Go to the Scriptures and pray according to God’s will within His Words.

Watch mountains move. 

So, What’s the Play Call?

  • Confess any wrongdoing in your life as you boldly approach God’s throne (Hebrews 4:16).
  • Believe that God is listening to you as you pray through the Bible (1 John 5:14, Psalm 66:19).
  • Make a decision now to take God at His Word; His Word is truth. (John 17:17, Joshua 24:15).

I am rooting for you, teammate!

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Doulos,
Chet

Influencer and Former NFL Player, Trent Shelton, Releases Debut Book, “The Greatest You”

Transform Your Mind, Transform Your Life

trent shelton greatest youTrent Shelton, former NFL wide receiver turned one of the most impactful and influential voices on positivity of today’s generation, releases his debut book “The Greatest You: Face Reality, Release Negativity, and Live Your Purpose” today via Thomas Nelson/HarperCollins.

A college football standout, Shelton seemed to have it all together — until everything fell apart. Life seemed without hope until he discovered the secret to finding promise in the darkest times. “Becoming the greatest me became my mission, and I dedicated myself to becoming nothing less,” says Shelton. “Taking my life to the next level was no longer an option; it was a must.”

As he continued to work on himself, Shelton started tweeting about it with the hashtag #RehabTime, recording his transformation through two-minute videos under the same name. The engaging, hard-hitting, yet always uplifting messages seemed to resonate with people across the globe and quickly gained popularity, earning him the largest following of any motivational speaker on social media with a weekly online audience of 50 million plus and over 1 billion video views to date. Now, for the first time ever, Shelton is putting those messages in writing with “The Greatest You.”

Even though your story may have some bad chapters in it, it can still end well,” says Shelton. “But you’re going to have to be real with yourself before you can discover the best version of yourself, the version you were meant to be. It all starts with you.”

“The Greatest You” provides a revolutionary tool kit for transforming life and reaching goals and provides necessary steps to help others face the reality of their circumstances and find their purpose in life. From breaking free from toxic environments and forgiving others – including yourself – who have harmed you, “The Greatest You” addresses the significant need to reexamine life and learning how to guard against the pitfalls of life. Key sections include You’ll Never Win Your War by Running from Your Battles, Forgiveness Is Not For Others — It’s For You, Protecting Your Peace, and What Kind of Legacy Do You Want to Leave, among others.

“This book is a promise,” says Shelton. “A promise to walk with you side-by-side, meeting you where you are as I help you navigate the up’s and down’s of life and propel you to live out your purpose. It’s RehabTime…let’s get it!”

For more information, visit:

Website – www.trentshelton.com
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/LikeTrentShelton
Twitter – https://twitter.com/TrentShelton
Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/trentshelton

About Trent Shelton

Trent Shelton is a former NFL wide receiver (having been a member of the Indianapolis Colts, Seattle Seahawks and the Washington Redskins) that is now considered one of the most impactful speakers of this generation. He reaches over 50 million people weekly through his various social media outlets and non-profit RehabTime organization. A global speaker, Shelton travels the world sharing his message of creating lasting change in life. He and his wife Maria live in Fort Worth, Texas, with their two children, Tristan and Maya.

About Thomas Nelson

Thomas Nelson, part of HarperCollins Christian Publishing, Inc., is a world-leading provider of Christian content and has been providing readers with quality inspirational product for more than 200 years. The publishing group provides multiple formats of award-winning Bibles, books, gift books, cookbooks, curriculum and digital content, with distribution of its products in more than 100 countries. Thomas Nelson is headquartered in Nashville, TN. For additional information, please visit www.thomasnelson.com.

Don’t Panic, Put God in the Driver’s Seat

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Life Comes at Us Fast!

driver's seatI was on my way to church for our Sunday evening service, about five minutes away. As I was driving, I was singing along to Jonathan McReynolds’ song, ‘God Is Good’. It was my turn to go through the traffic light, mind you, I was about the 5th car to cross the intersection so the light was good and green. What did this mean? Well, it meant that the opposite light had been red for some time.

Seemingly, out of nowhere, a red Jeep sped through the light to the left of me. It crossed right in front of me… meaning they definitely ran that red light. Now, it happened so fast that I’m not really sure how I saw what type of vehicle it was. Anyhoo… I was literally 2 feet from hitting and devouring the passenger side of that SUV when I slammed on my brakes. My car stopped, clear in the middle of the intersection and, for about seven seconds, I couldn’t breathe. Like, I was going forty miles an hour down that street, that would have been absolutely horrific, but God allowed my brakes to do their job.

The weird, not so weird, thing is that I didn’t panic. Although I did kinda lose my breath a little, I couldn’t panic. No fast heartbeat, no sweat, nothing.

God is in Control

christian livingNow, my story wasn’t just a cause for me to share my close call, but a chance for me to make a point (as usual). Here goes…

There will be times in life that you will come close to a collision point, but when you allow God in the “driver’s seat”, your brakes will work every time.

Now, I don’t promise that you won’t panic a little, that often comes with the territory, but I can guarantee that if you allow Him room, God will work things out for you. Tough situations are inevitable and seem to come around in new forms every day. They catch us off guard and speed right before our eyes, only, sometimes we do crash into that “red Jeep” and can’t quite figure out how to bounce back or pay that “insurance” bill.

So, What’s the Play Call?

Life can be tough and feel like our brakes don’t work. Sometimes, it feels like the engine stops altogether. In reality, we don’t always get that 7 seconds to breathe through the intersection, but we’ve got to keep pushing until we get to our destination. Here are a few things to keep in mind in those moments when you need to slam on the brakes:

  1. Trust God. Without realizing it, I put a lot of trust in the operation of my car. When that Jeep flew in front of me, I didn’t think twice before I crashed my right foot down on the brake pedal. Allow your trust in God to become instinctive. “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5
  2. Know that God is working things in your favor. It doesn’t always seem that way, but it’s true. And “our favor” may mean we have more peace, or wisdom, or joy, or greater understanding. Whatever it means for your situation, know that if God is handling it, it’s what’s best. “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28
  3. Try not to panic. That may be tall order depending on what you’re dealing with, but panicking does nothing but add to your trauma. God’s will is still His will, whether you use your energy “losing it” or not. “For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee.” Isaiah 41:13
  4. Don’t stop driving. The thing about life collisions is that you have the choice to keep pushing or pull over and turn your “car” off. Don’t stop, go through it. “Be ye strong therefore, and let not your hands be weak: for your work shall be rewarded.” 2 Chronicles 15:7

I pray that you keep going, even after a collision. Allow God to lead you through whatever it is that you’re dealing with. Remember, keep God in the driver’s seat.

UGLYDOLLS Movie: Being Wonderfully-Made Beats Perfection

uglydolls movieUGLYDOLLS Celebrates How Unique We Are

Coming to theaters May 3rdUglyDolls is the ultimate story about the underdog – or doll – prevailing! The film stars Kelly Clarkson (American Idol, The Star), Nick Jonas (Night at the Museum: Battle of the SmithsonianJumanji: Welcome to the Jungle), Janelle Monáe (Rio 2Hidden Figures), Blake Shelton (Pitch Perfect 2The Angry Birds Movie), and rap-artist Pitbull.

UglyDolls centers on the town of Uglyville, where peculiarity is encouraged. When the dolls discover the world outside of their metropolis demands perfection and reject their unique appearance, they are forced to recollect who they truly are, and find that they’ve been remarkable all along.

Film Synopsis

In the adorably different town of Uglyville, weird is celebrated, strange is special and beauty is embraced as more than simply meets the eye. Here, the free-spirited Moxy and her UglyDoll friends live every day in a whirlwind of bliss, letting their freak flags fly in a celebration of life and its endless possibilities. The endearingly unique residents of Uglyville occasionally look to the sky above the town, where a new UglyDoll will appear and be embraced by the community.

Moxy (Kelly Clarkson) loves her square-peg life in this round-hole town, but her curiosity about all things leads her to wonder if there’s something – anything – on the other side of the mountain which nestles Uglyville. Moxy gathers a group of her closest friends and sets off to find what’s on the other side. They discover another world – Perfection – a town where more conventional dolls are trained in protocols before they graduate and are sent to the “real” world to find the love of a child.

In Perfection, Moxy and her crew are subject to the manipulations of Lou (Nick Jonas), the perfect doll in charge of training recruits. Here, the UglyDolls will confront what it means to be different, struggle with their desire to be loved, and ultimately discover that you don’t have to be perfect to be amazing because who you truly are is what matters most.

Fill Up On Fun, Not Food Guilt At Your Summer BBQ

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Fun Over Food Guilt

Summer is the season of picnics, BBQs, and outdoor gatherings. These events can be such rich times to enjoy with friends and family! But, they can also be loaded with rich, greasy meats, heavy sides, and an expanse of decadent sweet treats!

Special occasions are meant to be enjoyed, but if you have ever left a ‘special occasion’ with a little food guilt, you can change this.  You were born with the ability to choose.  And, if you have the Spirit of God living in you, then you also have the fruit of the Spirit, self-control.  Learning how to exhibit that fruit requires some boundaries and practice!

Wise ol’ Solomon says it plain and simple:

The plans of the diligent lead surely to advantage,
But everyone who is hasty comes surely to poverty.
Proverbs 21:5 (NASB)

Determining your behaviors before you arrive, before the food is staring you in the face is to your advantage.  The dictionary describes advantage as “especially favorable to success, interest or any desired end.”  When we decide to “play it by ear” or “see what looks good,” hasty decisions can overwhelm good intentions.

As you begin to plan for your fun, food-filled events, here are some ideas to help you navigate the food scene:

Eat One Regular Size Plate of Food

At gatherings and special events, it is common to see the “platter-sized” plates available for filling, and even more common to go back for a second spoonful of the dishes that delighted our taste buds.  But, just like you would do at home, set a boundary about how much you will eat.  

You don’t need to feel guilty about enjoying a spoonful of a satisfying but rich casserole, but you certainly will feel it if you go back for a second helping.  Choose a regular 9” plate.  Fill it once.  And enjoy!

Decline the “Doggy Bag” and Aluminum Foil

There is no guilt enjoying some dishes that you wouldn’t make on a regular basis, but choose to enjoy them at the gathering – and leave it there.  That is what makes it a “treat,” right?!  If these foods do not fit into your regularly scheduled healthy meals at home, then kindly decline the leftovers.  By doing this, you avoid the decision to “indulge” or throw away – just make the decision now. Don’t bring them home.

Choose One Dessert

At many BBQs and outdoor gatherings I have attended, it is not uncommon to see an entire table filled with desserts!  Pies, cookies, cakes, puddings…  Why that many sweet-treats is necessary, I have no idea!  But, I digress.  When having dessert at a restaurant, how many would you order?  When eating a homemade dessert at home, how many would you taste?  One!  Follow the plan you would use in any other scenario, view your “menu”, and choose one.  Cut a moderate portion and enjoy every bite you choose to eat!

Don’t Be Deceived by Beverage Choices

Many common beverages at parties are loaded with calories and sugar!  

  • 16oz sweet tea = ~140 calories
  • 16oz fruit punch = ~240 calories
  • 16oz soda (ie. coke) = 186 calories
  • 16oz 100% juice = ~250 calories
  • 12oz dark beer = 180-200 calories

Decide how much of your preferred option is acceptable to you and then what you will do when you need a refill.  

A few light and refreshing choices to consider:

  • Sparkling water (lemon, lime, tangerine, etc) – These are great when poured over ice and there are dozens of flavor choices in grocery stores!
  • Unsweet iced tea with a splash of juice
  • Sparkling water or water with a splash of juice and orange wedge
  • Infused water – Mint or herbs; orange/lemon/lime wedge; muddled berries.  Create your own flavor combo!

Bring A Healthy Dish

When attending events thrown by other individuals, you can never be certain of all that will be provided.  Wisely and strategically offer to bring a healthy recipe that you know is delicious and satisfying.  Don’t be conned, persuaded or ‘voluntold’ to bring an item you don’t want to bring.  Kindly decline and offer your healthy recipe – make sure to highlight its amazing flavor!

For some Healthy Inspiration in the kitchen, bring this Citrus Asian Coleslaw to your next event!

Citrus Asian Coleslaw Citrus Asian Coleslaw

 

 

 

 

Citrus Asian Coleslaw

Ingredients
16oz bag coleslaw mix
6 tbsp rice wine vinegar
1 tbsp toasted sesame oil
2 tbsp 100% pure maple syrup
1/2 tsp kosher salt
1/8 tsp fresh ground black pepper
1/4 cup chopped cilantro, + more for garnish
2 tbsp chopped green onion
1/4 cup sunflower seeds, raw
1/4 cup slivered almonds, raw
2 oranges, sliced into small wedges

Directions

In a medium non-stick pan, toast sunflower seeds and almonds on medium heat until lightly brown and fragrant. In a large mixing bowl with lid, add in vinegar, oil, maple syrup, salt, and pepper. Whisk dressing well or shake up with lid. Then, add in coleslaw mix, cilantro, green onion, and sliced orange. Top with lid and shake up until combined. Store in refrigerator for at least 4 hours to allow flavors to combine. Before serving, stir in seeds and almonds. Garnish with additional chopped cilantro.

Servings: 8, about ¾ cup

Nutrition per ¾ cup Serving
Calories 127
Total Fat 7.4g
Saturated Fat 0.8g
Cholesterol 0mg
Sodium 139mg
Carbohydrate 11g
Dietary Fiber 4g
Sugar 9g
Protein 4g

So, What’s the Play Call?

Creating a plan for your next BBQ or outdoor picnic will keep you in the driver’s seat and guilt nowhere to be found.  Before you drive up or even smell the smoke wafting from the grill, determine your game plan and personal boundaries.  Have a loving, but firm response ready if someone insists you aren’t eating enough or implies you will insult them by not trying their dish.  

As you think through previous scenarios and your own expectations for upcoming gatherings, ask the Lord to give you insight and wisdom so that you can respect your boundaries and speak in love to those who might infringe upon them.  

for KING & COUNTRY Announce ‘burn the ships’ Fall 2019 North American Tour

burn the ships 2019 Fall Tour Coming to a City Near You

Two-time GRAMMY® award-winning duo for KING & COUNTRY is heading back out on the road, as the 2019 Billboard Music Award nominees just announced the burn the ships | world tour: North America. The extensive run will see for KING & COUNTRY bring the bow of the proverbial “ship” to life with a thrilling new stage and lighting setup, and will hit arenas in major markets including Nashville, TN; Chicago, IL; Atlanta, GA; San Diego, CA; and British Columbia with more to follow. The artist exclusive pre-sale is open now and fans can access tickets by entering the code SHIPS at the link provided HERE. General public on-sale date is May 3rd at 10:00am local time.

burn the ships | world tour: North America 2019

9.26 CURE Insurance Arena Trenton, NJ
9.27 EMU Convocation Center Ypsilanti, MI
9.28 Sears Centre Arena Chicago, IL
9.29 Ascend Amphitheater Nashville, TN
10.03 L.C. Walker Arena Muskegon, MI
10.04 Bankers Life Fieldhouse Indianapolis, IN
10.05 The Family Arena St. Louis, MO
10.06 Verizon Arena Little Rock, AR
10.10 Fox Theatre Atlanta, GA
10.11 Bay Center Pensacola, FL
10.12 Addition Financial Arena Orlando, FL
10.13 Amalie Arena Tampa, FL
10.18 Maverik Center Salt Lake City, UT
10.19 Tingley Coliseum Albuquerque, NM
10.20 Tucson Arena Tucson, AZ
10.22 Reno Events Center Reno, NV
10.24 Viejas Arena San Diego, CA
10.25 Bren Events Center Irvine, CA
10.26 Memorial Auditorium Sacramento, CA
10.27 The Pavilion at Oregon State Fair Salem, OR
11.01 Taco Bell Arena Boise, ID
11.02 Abbotsford Centre Abbotsford, B.C.
11.03 Angel of the Winds Arena Seattle, WA
11.05 Casper Events Center Casper, WY
11.09 Target Center Minneapolis, MN
11.14 State Farm Hidalgo Arena Hidalgo, TX
11.16 Berry Center Houston, TX
11.17 UNO Lakefront Arena New Orleans, LA
11.22 UMBC Event Center Baltimore, MD
11.24 Bon Secours Wellness Arena Greenville, SC

 

About for KING & COUNTRY’s burn the ships

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Two-time GRAMMY award-winning duo for KING & COUNTRY makes a powerful statement with their much-anticipated third album, Burn the Ships, an epic, sweeping musical landscape that explores themes of new beginnings, forgiveness, hope, and love.

The album’s soaring debut single, “joy,” which features a 100-person choir and a hypnotic wave of rhythm and electronic sounds, hit No. 1 and has been streamed more than 18 million times. The lyrics cut through the cacophony of societal noise to remind us about what is important: “Oh, hear my prayer tonight. ‘Cause this is do or die. The time has come to make a choice. I choose joy.”

The inspiring pop masterpiece also represents the exciting adventure into unchartered territory for brothers Joel and Luke Smallbone, who were propelled into superstardom with the release of their critically acclaimed sophomore album, RUN WILD. LIVE FREE. LOVE STRONG., which debuted at No. 1 on iTunes and was certified gold. In addition to winning two GRAMMYs and four Dove Awards, the duo performed internationally on a hugely successful 60-date arena tour.

They have garnered five No. 1s (“joy,” “Priceless,” “Fix My Eyes,” “Shoulders,” and “God Only Knows”), nine Top 10 hits, and had songs featured on the Emmys, Super Bowl, Sunday Night Football and many other high-profile events, including performances on The Tonight Show, Today and Jimmy Kimmel Live!

But as they reveal in Burn the Ships, there is no looking back, no resting on their laurels. There is much more to explore and explain, especially during this time of great unrest when answers don’t seem immediately apparent. With a new level of vulnerability and honesty, they wrote every song on this project, which they also co-produced with longtime collaborators Aqualung, Tedd T. and Seth Mosely. “It isn’t perfect – far from it – but there is a sense of truthfulness and a heart and a personality and an ideology behind this record,” Joel says. “It feels like the most mature version of for KING & COUNTRY.”

The title track was inspired by a 1500s Spanish explorer who boldly landed his ships on enemy shores without any knowledge of what awaited his arrival. To ensure that the men were committed to their mission, he proclaimed, “Burn the ships!” The only way to go was onward; retreat was not an option.

“That is the big statement that this collection of songs is making,” says Luke. “We don’t want to live in the past; we want to move forward. There are things in everybody’s pasts that you have to get rid of—in some cases physically burn and in other cases you just need to get rid of them however you can emotionally. For us, that is the name that represents this collection of art and works best.”

These songs fit in perfectly with today’s pop music arena, where artists ranging from Kesha to Drake are exploring themes of religion, prayer, and God. The Smallbones’ words are a soothing salve for a hurting nation in need of healing.

“People are hungry for truth and hope,” Luke says. “I don’t think they want something that is false. So when it comes to people seeking out God, they are receptive because they are trying to figure out what is true and real. I think that is a

good thing. I hope our music can play a role in that, but ultimately people have to figure it out for themselves.”

Burn the Ships may be the duo’s most personal work to date because the songs are about some of the most meaningful and terrifying moments of their lives. For instance, “Need You More” was inspired by the near-death of Luke’s infant son, Leo. His wife Courtney found Leo in his crib, blue from not breathing. She began CPR while praying over their son, who soon came back to life. While driving to the hospital, the words, “I need you more/more than ever before,” came to Luke, who hit record on his phone. That original recording, including sounds from the car, was included in the final mix.

“My hope is that if I have gone through some form of suffering, maybe there is someone else who has gone through something similar who can take a bit of hope that there was someone else just like them,” Luke says. “I feel like God has given me these struggles to share those stories.”

“joy.” was inspired by Luke’s late-night marathon scrolling through social media. “I couldn’t articulate in that moment why I was sad, but it sent me on a pilgrimage, and that is where ‘joy’ came from.” I realized I needed to do something if I want to have joy. I can’t just scroll and find it.”

While “Fight On, Fighter” continues the duo’s focus on a woman’s worth, it is first and foremost a musical letter of support to their wives.

Joel and Luke, who have become American citizens, learned about hope, love and support from their tight-knit family. Their parents raised seven children in Sydney, Australia, before moving to Nashville in 1991. Music became the family business. Their charismatic father was a music promoter and sister Rebecca St. James became a successful Christian music artist, so the duo’s teen years were spent working as part of her road crew.

When Luke was 19 and Joel was 21, they formed a band and began writing and recording the body of work that would become for KING & COUNTRY. They released their debut album, Crave, in 2012 and won New Artist of the Year at the 2013 Dove Awards, where they received six nominations.

In what has become a full-circle moment, they wrote “Never Give Up” with sister Rebecca for the new album. Once novices, they are now their sister’s peers and have a shared understanding of the difficulties of being frequently away from home. “We learned the craft of music and fell in love with it on the road with Rebecca, “ Joel says. “In some ways, for KING & COUNTRY is a legacy band of Rebecca’s. It’s a real special moment to be able to have that creative collaboration after all of these years with her.”

The album’s theme of adventure and exploration ends poetically with “Pioneers,” a lush song about the romance and realities of long-term commitment. Fittingly, wives Moriah and Courtney join them on the final track. “In a time where commitment can be hard to come by—the through-thick-and-thin/death-do-us-part kind of commitment—it’s a song that celebrates that kind of love,” Joel says.

Perhaps it’s no surprise that the duo felt compelled to embark on this musical pilgrimage because they have been two of our most prescient storytellers in recent years, addressing issues even before they became part of the national conversation.

It’s as if they know what we need to hear exactly when we need to hear it. For instance, their 2016 No. 1 hit “Priceless”, which also inspired the Smallbones’ human-trafficking themed movie by the same name, celebrates a woman’s worth. Several years before the #MeToo phenomenon, the Smallbones sparked a movement highlighting a woman’s value that continues to grow and evolve today. They began writing and recording songs about hope and love several years ago for Burn The Ships, messages that are vital during these tumultuous times. Their music provides answers, comfort, and affirmation while offering a constant reminder that we aren’t alone, even in our darkest times. “We never want to be a voice of critique or criticism, but a voice of, ‘Maybe if we shifted our perspective, what would we see?’ That is the beauty of music,” Joel says. “We ask the questions of ourselves: ‘I want to have joy. I want to find a way. When I am faced with despair, struggle or hardship, what can I do?’”

Luke adds, ” The thing I am most proud of with this album is that when I look at all 10 songs, they all have a special place in my heart and there is a real significant story with each one. This album is about those songs in our hearts being exposed to others, and hopefully, others will expose their hearts too.”

God’s Will For You vs. the Will of Family and Friends

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I Think You Should Choose…

god's will for our livesI recently got cable installed in my apartment (I mentioned that a couple articles ago) and I flip through the channels a lot. Well, one day, I came across the Disney Channel and the movie “High School Musical” was on. Did I keep flipping or stop to watch it? I watched it, of course – we all need a little Disney every now and then. Anyhoo…

One of the characters in the movie, Troy, was the basketball captain but he decided to audition to be in the school musical. His father, along with the entire basketball team, was against it and they did all they could to convince him that theater and musicals were not for him. **Stay with me** Although Troy was skilled in basketball, he wanted to sing, he was gifted to sing, but he had no support. Not even from his father – the person he looked up to most.

The other main character, Gabriella, faced similar circumstances, except the other students barely knew her, but they were aware of her academic skills and they needed her for a competition. They joined forces with the basketball team to get both Troy and Gabriella to focus on what “they” had in mind as a “win”.

God’s Will For Our Lives

Now, I’m sure you’re trying to figure out what in the world this has to do with anything. See, in life, people will talk you into doing what they think is a good fit for you. They may hear you sing and decide that you should be in the choir – when God has called you to the usher board. They may even try talking you into something just because that is the area “they” need assistance in. Often times, people have their “wins” in mind and make great plans to include you – but for their benefit.

Sadly, many times, when you decide to do what you are actually called to do, you may look around and not have any of the support that you desire or feel you need to go forth in your calling.

Your job is to answer that call anyway.

When God has called you, you answer to Him. Yep, even when others are not in favor or agreement.

Now, I know my example may seem irrelevant to you because, well, you’re beyond Disney watching age. But know that although you may come up against opposition, God is there. He is fully capable of being the backup and support system you need in order to fulfill your purpose. 2 Corinthians 12:9 in our PlayBook says, “And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” God is strong when we feel too weak to go on without our family and friends. Because you know – they are the hardest to disappoint.

So, What’s the Play Call?

Here are a few things to remember when you find yourself stepping out to do God’s will, without the support system you desire for your life:

  1. Know that you were chosen for this! Our PlayBook says in Matthew 22:14, “For many are called, but few are chosen.” Make the conscious decision to answer God’s call, even when it’s not the popular decision amongst friends, family, or even saints.
  2. Keep carrying that cross! Yes, it gets tough sometimes, but when you live for Christ, it is imperative that you intentionally follow Him. “Then said Jesus unto his disciples, if any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.” Matthew 16:24
  3. Seek God! It’s easy to look to friends for reassurance, but what does God have to say about what you are doing? His opinion is more important, in fact, it is the only one that matters. “Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his face continually.” 1 Chronicles 16:11
  4. Be strong! Sometimes it takes strength to let others know that their ideas just don’t fit into God’s plan for your life. Let God lead you. “Finally, my brethren be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.” Ephesians 6:10

When you are obedient, be prepared for God to use you and make you an example for Him – whether others approve or not.

The #1 Key to Abundant Life as a Christian Single

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Christian single, what does abundant life mean to you?

Is it the music video with fur coats, cars, and mansions? Is it the reality show where ministers and pastors of mega-churches have all of those things? Is it the dream job, the handsome husband/beautiful wife, and the adorable kids? Do you believe the abundant life is the life you’re living right now?

The Bible clearly states that Jesus came to give us abundant life (John 10:10). In one translation, the verse says “…more and better life than they dreamed”.

So God, where are You? Where’s my mansion, my mate, and my dream job? (I’d take any one of those three.) As seasons change, why am I always struggling, searching, and unfulfilled in different areas of my life?

Have these thoughts ever crossed your mind? They’ve certainly crossed mine.

Last week, I discussed my online dating experiences with you as a Christian single. I surrendered to His will and I put my future in His hands. I’ve had so many joyous, indescribable, peaceful days since closing my profile.  I’ve drawn closer to God now that my heart and my attention isn’t scattered in a million places. I have time to see girlfriends and delve deeper into ministry, and I’ve spent time exploring and trying new things. As awesome as that all is, I find I’m dealing with withdrawals. Mostly, withdrawals from attention. What’s ironic is, I never realized how much I depended on it. I am a strong woman of faith who depends on God for her worth.

…Right?

How shocking it was for me to realize how big my ego was when I stopped receiving text messages. How difficult it is to finally let go of men who played an unhealthy role in my life for years. What a struggle it is to decline calls and invitations.

I found myself asking, “Can my life really be full when I start to empty out the people I’ve clung to for so long?”

The thing about being lonely is it’s an emotion that’s difficult to discuss with others. People can’t handle that one. It’s like trying to hold a hot biscuit that just came out the oven. Folks want to grab it, but they’re afraid to grasp it too tightly. Especially those that are in a relationship.

Do you ever find that married folks can talk about a bad patch in a marriage and people will react with hope and words of encouragement, but when a single person talks about their rough patch, people get nervous and you’re suddenly on suicide watch? Marital problems pass, but being lonely seems to go hand in hand with being single. Or someone will say: “God, just hasn’t brought that person yet” – as if your future spouse is the “forever cure” for being lonely. This isn’t true, so stop telling people it is. It’s actually kind of funny.

Is There Abundance Without Marriage?

I think we feel this way because we’ve been conditioned to believe that marriage is that abundant life.  I mean the Bible says he who finds a wife, finds a good thing, but is finding a mate everything?

Many of you read that and probably thought “Yes, yes it is!” I know this because I thought it too. But truly there are so many verses that disprove this notion.

Mentally create the most perfect mate you can imagine. All of the qualities and physical qualifications you know you want. I’ve got news for you – even if that person exists, s/he’s not the key that unlocks the “Abundant Life” door.

Jesus is the key. The abundant life is full of happy days and blessings beyond belief, but it’s also being able to say “God, you’re in control, I still trust you” on the worst days.

Jesus is the therapist, the best friend, the healer, the provider, and the life partner we’ve been searching for. He fills the voids that we so desperately try to fill with earthly possessions, degrees, titles, trips, and people. All of those are wonderful things, and I hope you get them, but just know that “high” you feel when you have them won’t last forever.

There’s no need to backpack across Europe with the intention to find your identity. Your identity lies in Him. When the doctor calls with a bad report, you can’t cling to the newest thing you just bought. When the people who your world revolves around leave you, Jesus is still there.

Jesus Is Everything.

Discard all the podcasts, self-help books and other materials telling you how to endure singlehood.  Live this season of your life out loud. No matter how long you’ve been marking that “(S)Single” checkbox, enjoy this season.

Find your joy in the things of God. Be open to spur of the moment plans. Make new Christian friends and explore your local cities together. Take a fun workout class. Decorate your living space, make a home. Turn the TV off and go outside. Join a book club. Mend relationships with family members. Find a hobby. Try to learn new things about yourself. Open your home for a dinner party. Join a ministry or pray about starting a new one. Open a small business online. Do something you’ve convinced yourself you could never do alone. Try something you told yourself you’re too old to do.

There is LIFE in THIS season; don’t wait any longer, move forward. There will be hard days and you may feel lonely, but the great days will far outnumber the bad ones. And most importantly, get to know your Heavenly Father in a way that He is more real to you than an earthly best friend.

So, what’s the play call?

Live ABUNDANTLY.  This is the day that the Lord has made. Let us REJOICE and BE GLAD in it.

Christian Marriage: Spouses, Are You Grading Your Own Paper?

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Is Your Pen Mightier Than the Sword?

marriageAs a Christian wife who’s still doing “my work”, I’d rather fall on my pen than hubby’s sword any day. My pen is nice and shiny, has the smoothest roller you’ve ever felt, and the richest red ink to scribe an “A+” on everything I do – LOL!

Tell the truth. You’ve got a pen too, don’t you?

{Clears throat}

“With this pen, I thee wed, and will remind you of every A+ I give myself.”

Sound familiar?

How Great Thou Art?

marriageCleavers, when your spouse tries to express what s/he needs (that they’re currently not getting), do you drown them out by singing your own praises?

Are you unable to see their wants, their frustrations because you’re too busy looking at the grades you gave YOURSELF?

“Well, I do this, and… I do that, and… remember that time I did…”

In marriage, one of the most dangerous behaviors is to grade your own paper – to tell your spouse how great a job you’re doing at being their spouse in the face of their needs.

How often do husbands and wives fool themselves into thinking they’re the best thing since sliced bread – when that’s only true if they were married to themselves!? Marriage would be so much easier if only your spouse would think, feel, need, and respond like you, right?

Reality check, Cleavers – You are married to another human being – a thinking, feeling, desiring spouse who, from their vantage point, may not always grade you on the steep curve you grade yourself.

Trust that when needs are left ignored and/or unmet, be it communication, time, intimacy, sex (yes, those last two are different), finances – it cracks the door for the enemy’s pinky toe. You’d be surprised at how the smallest incidence of confusion or frustration can open the floodgates of marital chaos and destruction.

Put Down the Pen, Perk Up Your Ears

Listen up, Cleavers! We have to stop leaning to our own understanding in marriage and hear our spouse’s heart. Here are a few reasons why grading your own paper must end today:

1.  It’s a breeding ground for pride.

Like mold, a few little pride spores can cause widespread damage in a short time. Your spouse will grow weary of you thinking so highly of yourself while their fulfillment is so low and their frustration is so high. There’s a reason why the Word of God tells us that pride goes before destruction, and an arrogant spirit before a fall (Proverbs 16:18). A prideful heart builds the very blinders that keep us from going in the right direction.  Don’t let pride destroy your marriage, and trip up your household.

2.  It does not value the feelings or experience of your spouse.

Value is everything to a marriage, and each spouse may have a different gauge or definition of what value means to them.  No one likes their values trampled and replaced with a counterfeit. Your spouse deserves consideration for his/her feelings and experience – which more often than not, will be different from the way you felt and experienced the very same thing.

This is an example of Ephesians 5:21, where equal opportunity submitting can be achieved. Step away from your own lens, and check out the view of your spouse.  You might be surprised.

3.  It resists the truth that you are not your own.

Are you still trying to govern what now belongs to your spouse? In a godly marriage, both the husband and wife have granted loving ownership of their bodies to their spouse (1 Corinthians 7:4). So, instead of your voice, views, and opinions getting louder, they actually diminish and the mic is passed to your spouse. This includes the red pen. We are no longer our “own”, to do what we will under our will, alone.

4.  It blocks the opportunity for martial growth.

One major key to marital growth is acknowledgment. We can’t receive forgiveness for our sins without first acknowledging that we have sinned. Likewise, if we only accentuate our perceived positives, and never acknowledge our negatives – we are fooling ourselves into disgraceful immaturity. The marriage cannot grow at a purposed rate if we refuse to acknowledge what our spouse feels.  Even if it turns out that their lens was scratched, they had you all wrong, hearing and respecting their heart enough to listen and value them (#2) will grow a long way.

Bonus

5.  It ignores the truth that God has a pen, too!

All of us pen-happy Cleavers eventually have to get out of the Teacher’s seat, and return to our desks! God is the righteous judge; He has lessons for each of us on how to improve as a husband, wife, and an individual. So, after you’ve graded your paper, and God calls for all papers to be passed to the front of your row – trust that His evaluation will be the fair, just, and true.

So, What’s the Play Call?

Let the sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:17), which is the Word of God, be mightier than your pen. Pride doesn’t respond to anything but a sword! Our egos need to be chopped down before they further contaminate the purpose and destiny for our marriages.

When you step away from the pen and chop your own pride down, your spouse no longer has to! A frequent, honest self-check regimen, through the leading of the Holy Spirit and God’s Word, will minimize arguments and disagreements. Clearly, this takes work!

So husbands, if you’re tired of your wife nagging you about what you’re not doing – spend some time with God. Let Him evaluate and lead you. Wives, tired of your husband complaining? Ask God to show you you and how you can be a better wife for your husband and not just a “better wife” in your own eyes.

The ultimate intention is for the marriage to get an A+, not just a single spouse.  Two (failing) 50% grades will not make a “100%”’ in a godly marriage.

So, as we cleave to each other, let’s strive to bring 100% to the table for the Teacher to finally say to both spouses, “Well done!

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